His kids were more important
I was in a bad car accident and going through menopause. I admitted myself into the hospital after the accident. While I was in there, he took his youngest daughter and abandoned me.
We both were in previous marriages. He had 3 children and I had 2. My first husband was a sex addict. He told me he didn't love me so I threw him out and divorced him. After my divorce was final I flew to FL to start over.
When I returned I met my second husband. His wife had a lover and they would go out and do drugs, and party. He was alone in a home they owned and she used the children like pawns.
I was a social worker and had connections, so we fought for visitation. It was always something. She finally took off and left the children with her father who was a gambler. The eldest went into the Navy right out of High School. In the meantime, the younger 2 where living in squalor. When I found out I had then get them and bring them to live with us.
My husband tried to commit suicide, the youngest daughter was a mess, and her older brother fell in love for the 1st time. The daughter kept pestering him and his girlfriend, who we allowed to come over to our house. He moved out due to her and moved in with the Mother's lover.
I fell apart and I am to blame. I gave up my career because he asked me to say home. I still love him but I hate him for what he did to me. He and his youngest child, who has taken my place, now live together. He says his kids are more important than me. My son built his daughter a computer and we found all kinds of indecent stuff, and she is only 16. Two months ago she attempted suicide. I tried to warn him, but he went into denial.
I have gone through physical and emotional hell. He won't go to counseling. We tried 2 times and the 2nd counselor gave him permission to not be married. I am a wreck, no job, no family. They have all put me through emotional distress. I went from 125lbs to 83lbs due to stress. He acts like his daughter is his wife. Valentine’s Day is my 11th anniversary but he won't talk about "us".