He had another family
Fasten your seat belt ladies, here comes my story. I was married for 27 1/2 years and have one son who is 25 and married, and a 22 year old daughter who is in college and lives with me. I found out my husband has had a Romanian mistress for 10 years. They have a daughter who is 8 years old and they only live 5 minutes away from where we live.
I went crazy when I found out and I asked him to make a decision; either stay with us or move out. Sure enough, he moved out with them… I forgot to mention his family knew all along and they used to socialize with them on every occasion.
We both hired lawyers to dissolve our marriage and get the financial assets divided fairly, because he was giving me a hard time for my financial share. After being separated for a year and 3 months, the court date was supposed to be in August.
But my husband wanted to reconcile. He wanted to move back with me and make things work the way we planned it long time ago… We have worked so hard to get where we are now, meaning we started to build our assets from -0 to a very comfortable life style.
I agreed to let him to move back in after talking to him on the phone every day. When he moved back, we used to stay up late talking, laughing, and watching movies. We discussed so many different issues and we promised each other we will make our marriage work. Not only we will try, but he said to kill him if he moves out again or does anything stupid.
We agreed on everything, even no physical contact. I told him I needed lots of time to get over this and he said to take as much time as you want, as long I am with you it is all that matters. He also assured me he will do a DNA paternity test on the girl just to make me happy (because I always tell him she doesn't look like him at all and she is probably not his).
Sure enough, I trusted him again with everything he does or says. Not because I am stupid or being forced to or being weak, but because I have a big heart for forgiveness. He told me everything about her and how they met (she was an exotic dancer and was married too, at the same time as having an affair with a married man).
I know ladies. You’re asking why did he even go to a men’s club in the first place? Well, he was with
his so-called best friend repairing his car in that area. The car wasn't ready at the time, so the friend insisted they go to the strip club to kill some time, and the rest is history.
Now after 3 months, he moved back with me and cut all the physical relationship with her, except he still pays her mortgage and child support. One day she called me up and told me that he is still having intercourse with her. He denied it completely and convinced me again that she is lying to me. I believed him until a week ago when she called me again, telling me he is going to sleep at her place for the night (he was already there to see the girl).
I freaked out and I asked him if it was true, if he was still fooling around with her. His answer was yes. I asked him to come home as soon as possible, but he refused to come home until the girl fell asleep. When he came home that night, I asked him if he still had feeling for her, and his answer was yes. I said that is not what you tell me every time I ask you. He said I think I was trying to hide my feelings for her, although you are more beautiful than her and you are a more respected woman than her, but I have no more physical feeling for you. I was SO crushed when he said that to me, and I answered him “You bast*rd, I should be the one saying that to you”.
So, after a very long night, we went to sleep as usual in the same room. The next morning I asked him to move out completely and never look back. He said he loves me, and can he do 3 nights with them and 4 nights with me? I laughed so hard and I asked what kind of man are you?
So, I helped him pack his belongings and off he goes to her place. Now his mother wants him to move out from the mistress’ house and live with her until he works things out with me. Until now, he didn't decide what he wants. I still talk to him on the phone, but my 2 kids are not talking to him at all. They wrote him a letter telling him how they feel about him, and as far as they know he is dead to them.
I contacted my lawyer to proceed with the divorce papers. I miss him very much, now I am not sure if I miss him from loneliness or love, soon I will find out and figure it out.