His gambling addiction and abuse

I am not sure where I should start...

My soon to be ex is a compulsive liar with a gambling addiction. He blames me for everything and uses verbal and emotional abuse to keep me under his fold. I took him back several times but the abuse and lies only got worse.

The worst thing is it is expected that I will forgive him and take him back since a woman’s role is to be submissive and to forgive and forget. I have been vilified by society but I have decided to continue to be strong for my children. I have chosen to be the best mother ever and let God be my judge.

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Gambling problems
by: Anonymous

I've been married for almost 28 years. Although I know in my heart it is the right thing to do, I can't help but feel this guilt. My soon-to-be ex-husband has a gambling problem, in addition to being emotionally abusive. We've lost so much, and he refuses to take responsibility. Even when he is trying to reconcile, he can't stop the name-calling and blaming. My adult children support me 100%, as they were witnesses to the way he treated me.

So why do I feel guilty?

When I am not around him, I feel much lighter, less incompetent and basically at peace. But when he contacts me to try and reconcile, I have a major anxiety attack. NOW he suggests counseling, which I suggested years ago. But I'm just over it. He thinks because he didn't cheat on me or beat me, I'm just being stupid. He can't understand there is more to a marriage than just sharing a home.

How do I stop feeling guilty, when I know divorcing is the only way I can keep my sanity and a shred of dignity???

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