His gambling addiction and abuse

I am not sure where I should start...

My soon to be ex is a compulsive liar with a gambling addiction. He blames me for everything and uses verbal and emotional abuse to keep me under his fold. I took him back several times but the abuse and lies only got worse.

The worst thing is it is expected that I will forgive him and take him back since a woman’s role is to be submissive and to forgive and forget. I have been vilified by society but I have decided to continue to be strong for my children. I have chosen to be the best mother ever and let God be my judge.

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End of the road
by: Mary Ann

We have been married for almost 8 and the gambling has gotten worse. He blames me when he loses, as well as the fights. I try not to give him money but he just badgers me to the point where he recently shoved me in front of our five year. He has no remorse and sincerely thinks as long as he uses his money, I am making it out as a bigger deal than it is.

When we are apart, I feel peace. But when he is home, I worry about his mood and the impact it will have on our kids. I am in a financial hole and I am unsure of how to get out as well as file for divorce. Is it better to stay?

Gambling problems
by: Susan

I've been married for almost 28 years. Although I know in my heart it is the right thing to do, I can't help but feel this guilt. My soon-to-be ex-husband has a gambling problem, in addition to being emotionally abusive. We've lost so much, and he refuses to take responsibility. Even when he is trying to reconcile, he can't stop the name-calling and blaming. My adult children support me 100%, as they were witnesses to the way he treated me.

So why do I feel guilty?

When I am not around him, I feel much lighter, less incompetent and basically at peace. But when he contacts me to try and reconcile, I have a major anxiety attack. NOW he suggests counseling, which I suggested years ago. But I'm just over it. He thinks because he didn't cheat on me or beat me, I'm just being stupid. He can't understand there is more to a marriage than just sharing a home.

How do I stop feeling guilty, when I know divorcing is the only way I can keep my sanity and a shred of dignity???

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