He abandoned me

by Laila
(Middle East)

He abandoned me without warning and for NO REASON! I just want to know why he could move on so easily.

He was nine years older than me when we met and fell in love, so I felt that he was more mature than all the other men or more like boys I have dated. He showered me with attention, flowers, gifts, and love.
We spent 7 years together. To be honest, they weren’t amazing. He had a lot of issues. He would hit, punch, publicly humiliate me, and God knows what he would tell his family about me.

Our honeymoon was something out of a tragic movie. He threw me out of the hotel and beat me in front of the hotel staff. I called the embassy and they put me up in a different room (I refused to change hotels because I still wanted to see him even if it was just in passing). We made up and he flew back home with me. When I got home, I had lost 2/3rds of my body weight; I was covered in bruises which are still on record in Thailand as well as the hospital report of the beating and stitches.

I went back to him... Things got better then worse. When I was un-employed, he could never let the fact that I was broke go. When I finally found a job (I accepted anything to shut him up) he made fun of my low pay...

After I moved up the ladder and then switched companies, I ended up making about 1000 dollars more than him which killed his pride and really upset him. To the point where he asked me to start paying a % of the rent and other things he should have been taking care of as a well-off man.

I’m going to skip to this past year...
I was hospitalized for depression, and he seemed supportive and decided we would move to Los Angeles and that it would be good to have a fresh start. I thought he was thinking of me.

Foolish of me…
He promised that our rent would be paid for until I left the hospital, that he would give me money monthly. When I was discharged I found out my home was gone. The only things I had were my clothes and accessories that my mom's maid picked up and nothing else. The money he claimed to have left with his mom he took back and he was actually in Amsterdam not California.
I was abandoned...

Of course, I heard so many times “we told you so” that if I had a penny for each one I would be able to live in Beverly Hills and be set for life.

I eventually got his number from a mutual friend who was very hesitant to give it to me. He told me that when I was ready and he was ready we would still be together... all lies. He then cut off all contact with me until he called me out of the blue because he wanted my help. GO FIGURE RIGHT! I helped… and haven’t heard from him since.

Now we were married in the Middle East, and I don’t know about the divorce laws in the United States. My parents want me out ASAP. I can’t afford a decent divorce lawyer and I want to take him to the cleaners and start up my own business.

I need to get his attention and don’t know how. I have told him that I will divorce him. I told him I bought a ticket and have his address and to expect me to pop up at any time... to be honest I just want to know why he cut me out of his life so easily. I know another woman has something to do with it; I would be a fool if I didn’t, because if he was lonely he would definitely contact me at least.

I need help but have no clue where to start.