He was a mommas boy
by Z. lugo
My ex was a momma’s boy who never cut the apron strings. His mom criticized me all the time because she thought I was too young for him. And he never stood up for me. After 18 years of marriage, I couldn’t take it anymore and filed papers for a divorce.
During our divorce he got engaged to be remarried. He did not want parental custody of the three kids, but fought with me about his pension and refused to pay alimony. I could not afford a really good attorney, and was not advised that he could have to pay for my attorney’s service. During the settlement of my divorce, my attorney told me that he could not continue to come to court unless I was willing to pay more money. I was in such duress that I walked away from the alimony and the pension, and settled on child support only.
Well, now I am losing my house. My kids are college students, not full time but unemployed and he stopped paying child support. When I filed for a motion --I could not afford to send it certified so it was hand delivered, he did not show up. In the meanwhile I have had no income for the past two months and had to apply for food stamps, seek help from the local churches to help pay my utilities, and received food from the food pantry.
My ex is a homicide detective earning about 105K with all the overtime he wants, yet he refuses to help out. He feels that he’s done enough and I should take any job and figure it out myself. I lost it and told him to take all three kids. I am not going to be homeless and then have him take the kids, so just take them now.
Can I modify the decree to get the pension I gave away for the custody of the kids? He has money and I am not able to provide for myself. I should not be put on the street after 18 year of marriage. He drove me insane, turning all my kids against me and making them promises of a new car and my 20 year daughter her own apartment which he is willing to pay for. My youngest child is special needs. He is taking my kid away from me to give to the woman who hates me for marrying her son.
How can I survive this nightmare? How can one person be so hateful and want to hurt the mother of his kids?