He lied about everything

by Mimi
(Illinois)

He is a narcissist. He is dishonest, was cheating, didn't pay bills or taxes, and stayed out all night. He was very controlling and isolated me from family. He lied to me and the kids.

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Untruths and lies for years
by: Nancy H.

He has been keeping things from me (tax issues, house liens, and an affair). He has a son with another woman, whom he never married. He never wanted anything to do with his son. He also has a daughter that he didn’t know about, and both kids are less than a year apart. He had to pay child support on both kids throughout our marriage ($2000 a month, which took away from our son age 10). Now he has falsified and signed the tax refund for the child support debt. I had to file as an innocent spouse for a debt because it was before our marriage.

He travels for his job and has not been truthful about where he goes. I found out through statements of expense accounts which came in the while he was away. Plus, he had an affair complete with pictures of himself (I have that photo). This was going on for a year.

Our whole marriage has all been lies, lies, and more lies. He has not slept in the same bed or made love to me in 3 years. He has denied intimacy for years now, and would say "you need to be to me like daggling a carrot in my face".

It just goes on and on and I’m scared. I’m angry and sad. I’m broken and depressed, but I will no longer trust him or others thanks to him. I find myself checking every 5 minutes to see if there is a pulse, but it’s dead.

I need to walk away now. My poor son has seen the emotional toll it’s taking on me, but he loves his Daddy and wants to be with him. His father travels all over the state and is always away. Even when he is home, he’s always working or talking, not making time like decent fathers do.
My husband was a very troubled person
by: Jeanine

It all started on my birthday last year, a guy hit on me at the bar. My husband proceeded to beat the man almost to death and then follow me to our hotel suite and beat me almost to death. This is the first of many beatings. He is a long haul truck driver and was home three days per month, which was hard.

One day while I was home and bored I Googled his name and had found out that he was a convicted felon, not once, not twice... three times!! All related to beating women and throwing them in trunks of cars. I could never get over this and it made me resent him even more. I have had three restraining orders and paid attorneys each time to have them dismissed.

He never helped out with the bills in the house, but he made me quit my job!! He did not want me around any people, including my family. He was slandering me on Facebook, telling our friends and his family that I stole all of his paychecks and cheated on him all of the time. He had given me a total of $500.00 in one year toward household bills. I have managed to stay afloat for my children. He is no longer involved in our life, thank God!! He is a monster and I pray for his next female victim. He’s a very troubled individual.
Mine was a narcissistic, manipulative, cheater, liar, and addict
by: Liz

He cheated repeatedly and lied about every time
He was a recovering alcoholic and active drug addict
He had hidden his addiction to dirty movies
He was verbally abusive
Financial problems
I lost all respect and trust in him
Everything was a lie!
by: June

I’m leaving my husband! He's tried talking to old girlfriends and is addicted to adult videos! He lied about everything when I met him. I thought everything was true till we got married fresh out of college. It wasn't till we lived with his parents that I noticed that they ALL lied, Idk why! He would lie, mommy would cover, and dad wouldn't say a thing. I think they believe their own lies!

He lied about saving a woman from a burning car. When I went to go investigate to find out what happened, I discovered that he was lying! Place of birth, lie! Past work history, lie! That he was a firefighter, lie! HE WENT AS FAR AS TO SAY THAT THE NURSE LET HIM GIVE OUR DAUGHTER HER SHOTS! Can you say gone! How dare he lie to me about my daughter or something that serious!
He was never the primary breadwinner
by: Stacy

We were separated when he got laid off from the best job he ever had. But he agreed to take antidepressants and his anger issues, especially toward the kids, improved and I agreed to move back with the kids. By the end of the year, his unemployment benefits were about to run out and he still didn't have a job. And I was still working full time and tending to the majority of the household upkeep and care of the kids.

I filed for divorce. He called the pastor. We met in her office on Christmas Eve. I was so done. But he cried and said he would be whatever I needed him to be; he agreed to stay medicated, get a good-paying job, and do much-needed repairs around the house. I continued to work full time as the sustainer of the family. He got a part time job making less than he had on unemployment. He tried and flunked out of a career program at the community college. He borrowed money from his dad to get a CDL and settled for a factory job through a temporary agency.

The repairs went undone because we still didn't have the money. He became intolerant again because he took himself off the meds. Yet I still would have stayed with him to keep our family together.

But I discovered that he was seeking anonymous sex with strangers. We had to share a computer and first I checked the browsing history to check up on the kids. My heart sank because he had done this before, but he pleaded that he didn't know why and I took him at his word. This time, a few days later, I came upon his plans to meet someone in the town where I work during my scheduled lunch hour. I arrived early and sat in my car and he showed up, wearing exactly what he said he would. It was that last straw that forced me to realize he was never really going to provide for me - he was using me to provide for him.
Compulsive lying
by: Gina

I am in limbo as to whether to divorce or not. The biggest reason, if I decide to, is that I cannot believe anything he tells me. I did catch him in an affair and that's really tough, but I think I could have forgiven that. But even after I confronted him, he saw her again and lied to me about it when I stated my suspicions. I found out from neighbors it was still going on. This made me look back and think about all the times I had that nagging feeling that he wasn't always truthful, but I had no tangible proof. I don't think I want to live with someone I have no trust for, and not sure I'll ever trust again. We've been married almost 10 years.
Pathological lying
by: Tami

I’ve been in your shoes. We were together for 6 years and married for 6 months. 6 weeks after our son was born, I found out he had an affair with my best friend. He has been constantly lying, nothing that came out of his mouth was the truth, but I tried to trust him. The affair was my last straw.

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