He cheated several times

by Emmah

I’ve been married for almost six years and I'm in the process of divorcing (still looking for an attorney). My husband started to act strange when he started work for a new company. He first answered a late call and pretended as if he doesn't hear anything.

I asked him about it and I was told that was a colleague. We fought about it and he moved out of the house for a day and came back here after. He then started to whisper when he answers his phone. When he goes to the bathroom he would take his phone. When he forgets the phone by mistake, he could come back for it. After a while you would hear him talking with the phone, but when he comes back he’s off the phone.

I asked him about it again and again he left it for a while. They continued to chat at the office. Almost three years ago he received a text from his girl. He refused to read it, but I kept at him until he opened it. He said he doesn't know the person who sent him that text. A few months later, he told me that he's going to see his Aunt. She isn't well and when I asked about her, he shouted at me. I kept quiet and he left immediately and came back on Sunday morning. While he was gone he switched his phone off (I tried to call but got no answer). He then phoned me the following day and I was out of the office. He tried my cell but I didn't hear it. After his missed call, I then realized that he was with his girl.

The incident passed, and I decided to forgive him. The very same year he cheated on me with another girl. He saved pictures of her undressed on his cell and saved her photos as her contact. Every now and then, when he phones her, her picture was appearing, and when she phones him her picture was appearing. I tried to divorce him but my parents refused to help me. I ignored him at the house up until the marriage counselor helped me to forgive him again.

Last November, he started texting with his friend again, telling her how much he loves her and how much he missed her. We talked and he apologized. In June, the very same girl told me that I don't know how to satisfy a man in bed, I don't know how to kiss him. He then moved out of the house for three weeks. One of the church leaders intervened and he came back home. I was still in my healing process and he left the laptop by mistake with his Skype chat open. He was video communicating with the lady and they were showing each other their private parts, they were talking about how they are going to do it when they meet each other.

I’m so disturbed and I'm looking for an attorney left and right. I will just file for divorce without informing my parents. We've got two sons, the first one is four years and the other one is 10 months. I'm worried about my kids but I think this is the best decision for me and my kids.