Escalating Abuse Was The Final Straw
Should have listened to my gut... I actually broke off our engagement because of his verbal abuse and let myself get suckered into going through with it. We’ve been married for nearly 6 years now.
On top of everyday verbal abuse over dog hair, pasta sauce, cheerios on the floor, baby making a mess when she eats, etc. he also went out of his way to ruin many special occasions such as our wedding day, baby's first day home and my first Mother's Day. 2 weeks before I gave birth I was on my hands and knees assembling furniture while he was on the couch suffering from an acute case of March Madness. He asked me to find other women for him to have sex with.
He quit his job behind my back and when he couldn't get another job he moved us from North Carolina to Michigan this summer so he could go back to school. While he was unemployed he would kick me and baby out of the apartment every day so he could watch online porn. He got rid of baby's crib, insisted I continue to nurse overnight even though pediatrician said not to... of course she fell off the bed he put her in and has developed sleep problems. He has been very controlling (physical, emotional, financial).
Physical abuse has escalated since July. Last straw was Oct. 6, when he put our daughter in the middle of it. He started yelling about toothbrushes, ripped up one of our daughter's books, and then slammed a door into my torso and held it shut so I was pinned in the doorway.... he had her in his arms the entire time and she was crying "Mommy" and he refused to let me hold her. Then he called me "crazy" and "f@#ked in the head". He taunted me saying "Are you going to the police again to tell them I battered you?"
Then he demanded I withdraw $500 out of my $3200 account so he could get his car repaired. This guy is sitting on $70,000! I withdrew the $$$, but took it back when he wasn't looking. I left with daughter and the dog the next morning, and ended up going out of state to my parents' house and have been awarded temporary physical custody until a further hearing is held.
Ongoing custody and visitation will be a challenge, finding work in this economy is tough, living with my parents is embarrassing... but I REFUSE to expose my daughter to his craziness anymore.
As difficult as this has been, it is easy in one important way... I dropped 185 lbs. of nastiness and it feels GREAT!!! I am optimistic about mine and my daughter's futures and have many reasons to smile. :-)