When negotiating settlement agreements during divorce, tax dependents and exemptions may not be given a lot of thought, if any at all. But once tax season comes around, it can become a big issue, especially when fighting over who gets to claim the kids.
The rules for the Dependent Tax Deduction after divorce have changed. Please read the article on The Dependent Tax Deduction after Divorce in conjunction with the information below.
Becky's Question: I was divorced in October. There is nothing in the divorce agreement about taxes. I have physical custody and we share legal custody. Do I get to claim both children on my tax return or do my ex and I each claim one child?
Brette's Answer: This is a question I am getting a lot at this time of year. If the divorce decree doesn't state otherwise, the parent with whom the child spends the most number of nights during the year (i.e. the custodial parent) is generally the one who is entitled to the exemption. It is possible to change who takes this, if you sign a release of claim to exemption http://www.irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/f8332.pdf. There are instances where one parent may not financially benefit from using the exemption and it makes sense to transfer it for a year. Some couples have a schedule set up in their decree alternating years.
Christy's Question: My ex-husband wants to claim both of our children on his tax return. In previous years he has claimed both, not sharing the exemption of refunds. The children live with me and have been divorced five years. I don't see the fairness or his right to claim at all. Does my ex-husband legally have any right to claim either of my children at all?
Brette's Answer: You should review your divorce decree to find out if it specifies which parent can take the tax exemption. If the decree doesn't specify, this is something you need to work out between the two of you, or return to court about.
Allison's Question: I am to claim our son on even years and the father is to claim him on odd years, for taxes. My question is - is it based on when you file the taxes, or the year for which taxes are filed.
Brette's Answer: That usually refers to the tax year you are filing for.
Jennifer's Question: I am the custodial parent of my son. As part of our divorce decree, my ex has to pay half of the daycare costs. I understand that only the custodial parent can claim the dependent daycare credit. But what is not clear to me is do I only claim my half or do I claim the full amount we pay together?
Brette's Answer: You can only claim what you personally pay.
Susan's Question: If the divorce decree mentions that non-custodial parent can claim the child as a tax exemption, is this for every year or is there any way this can be amended to every other year. The every year portion was not mentioned in the divorce decree.
Brette's Answer: It means every year, but you can seek to get it changed if there has been a change in circumstances.
Melynda's Question: In my divorce papers it states that I claim my son every year. My son spent his senior year at his dad's. Can I still claim him?
Brette's Answer: I'm getting a lot of these questions at this time of year. Read an article I wrote explaining it all here: https://www.womansdivorce.com/divorce-taxes.html
Denise's Question: When I was divorced, my papers stated joint custody with claiming my son every other year. Custody was modified later so that I have physical custody, but the tax part wasn't addressed. I just assumed that there was no way he could claim our son because he does not live with him. Now my ex plans on claiming him this year.
Brette's Answer: If your divorce papers still say the parents will alternate years claiming the child for tax purposes, that's what you have to do. It doesn't really have anything to do with how custody is arranged. Your alternative is to go back to your attorney and get it changed.
Cinniman's Question: My soon to be ex-husband wants to be able to claim my son on his taxes even though I will be the custodial parent. He says that if he claims him he will be paying more child support. Isn't the custodial parent the one who gets to claim the child regardless of the amount of child support?
Brette's Answer: This is usually determined in the divorce decree. Some parents alternate years. In other situations, only one parent ever takes it. Taking the dependency exemption does not mean your ex will be paying more support. In fact, it will save him money on his taxes.
DeAnna's Question: My ex pays child support and for daycare expenses through our child support agreement. He has won the right to claim our daughter as a dependent with the child tax credit. According to the IRS site, only the custodial parent can claim daycare expenses. I am the custodial parent but he pays the daycare expenses through child support. Is it ok for me to claim the daycare expenses?
Brette's Answer: If you don't pay the daycare costs yourself, you aren't eligible to deduct them. Talk to your tax advisor about this rule and how you might make some changes to qualify.
Jennifer's Question: Our divorce papers state that the father can claim our oldest child on income taxes. However, over the past year he has only had them about four days out of the month. He is also over $500 behind on child support. Would he still be able to do this legally?
Brette's Answer: Yes he would unless you went back to court to get that changed. Good luck.
Mimi's Question: Every other year my ex-husband and I switch who claims our son in our taxes. When I was doing my taxes online, I forgot to delete my son's information, so I accidentally claimed him. I called his dad right away, told him what happened, and said I was going to give him the money back once I get it. Now he is going to his lawyer, saying I did it on purpose and that what I did is against the law and it's a felony. Help.
Brette's Answer: The simplest thing to do would be to amend your tax return to correct the mistake. Good luck.
Kelly's Question: My divorce decree states that my ex can claim 2 of the three children. I have claimed all three for the past five years since we have been divorced. He tells me I am in contempt of court. However, he is behind about 15k in child support and sees them maybe once a year. I raise them and support them, so who is correct?
Brette's Answer: What I don't understand is why he didn't claim them if he is entitled to? There was nothing stopping him. Technically, you violated the decree by claiming them, but the fact that he didn't attempt to makes it pretty much a moot point. If he goes back to court to cause you trouble over this, he is going to find himself in contempt for the back support.
Robyn's Question: I signed and agreed in my divorce decree that I would allow my ex to claim our son every year and our daughter every year I am not working. He sent me the form 8332 and I change my mind about allowing him to claim them so I refused to sign them. Can I be held in contempt for this?
Brette's Answer: Yes. You can seek to modify the order if you have a reason. Good luck.
Kathy Asks: We have split custody of our son and it's my turn to claim him on my taxes. Since I haven't had a job in a year, can I let my ex claim our son? Also, would he have to give me any of the tax refund he gets?
Brette's Answer: If you're saying it's your turn to claim your child as an exemption, but you have no income so your ex is going to take the exemption instead, no he is not required to give you the money he saves on his taxes. You're only entitled to take the exemption yourself. If you are waiving your right to take it, he can use it and doesn't owe you anything. Now, you might want to be smart about it and say that you're not going to waive your right unless you get something in exchange.
Lisa's Question: I have full custody of our 2 children and my ex has visitation every other weekend. In our divorce decree it states that I am entitled to the 2 tax exemptions each year, but now my ex wants to claim the children because he is financially strapped. Does he have any legal way of forcing me to give up these exemptions?
Brette's Answer: No. If your court order gives them to you, he would have to seek a modification to get it changed.
Heather's Question: I have been claiming my 3 kids for the last 4 years on my taxes. Our divorce decree didn't stipulate who gets to claim them on their taxes, so according to the law since I am the custodial parent I have claimed them. Now my ex gave me papers to modify the decree so he can claim 1 of the children all the time and 1 child every other year. Do I have to sign this? Will the court accept it if I do not sign this?
Brette's Answer: No you do not have to agree to this. If he wants it modified, he can present his case to the court.
Karen's Question: My ex has claimed one of our sons on his taxes according to the provision in our divorce decree, but provides very little to both of our children and only sees them 28 hours a month. Can I petition the court to have this changed and what information do you have to provide to do so?
Brette's Answer: Yes, you can certainly ask to have this changed. You would need to provide information about how time he spends with them and what kind of financial support he provides. Often this tax decision is made based upon which parent would benefit from it more, so you would need to show how you could benefit from the exemption. » Return to top
Jennifer's Question: In our divorce agreement, it stipulates my husband would be entitled to claim our son on his taxes because he had custody. But 2 years ago he dropped him off with me and now only sees him once or twice a month for a few hours. Can he still claim our son on his taxes if he's not the residential parent? Also, what can I do to change who gets the deduction?
Brette's Answer: You'll need to go to court and have custody officially changed and shift the income tax exemption as well. At this point, he's entitled to claim it since the paper gave him that right.