Signing divorce papers is one of the last steps in finalizing your divorce. If you're unfamiliar with how a divorce proceeds and the steps that are involved, you can find a more detailed explanation by reading this article on the divorce process.
The following information answers the most common questions about signing divorce papers, such as what to do if your husband won't sign divorce papers, how can a divorce be finalized even if one spouse doesn't sign, and more:
Question: My husband had beat on me for an entire year. I left him because I was tired of the abuse. I have pictures to show where he was beating me. He had beat me so badly that I ended up receiving head trauma. Can I get a divorce without him signing?
Brette's Answer: You must have him served with divorce papers and if he does not respond the case can continue as uncontested. In your situation, it is very important that you speak with an attorney about the abuse you suffered. The court can keep your address secret so he cannot access it. You also likely will want an order of protection immediately which will order him to stay away from you. If you cannot afford an attorney, get in touch with your local domestic abuse shelter. They may be able to help you get an order of protection.
Heather's Question: I don't think that my husband will sign the papers. How do I go about getting the divorce if he won't sign them?
Brette's Answer: You can get the divorce proceeding started on your own or with the help of a lawyer. Your husband will then have to be served with the divorce petition and a court appearance will be scheduled. If he still refuses to sign, your case will proceed as a contested divorce and he will have to explain to the judge why he won't consent to the divorce.
Karan's Question: According to our religion I need my husband's signature on the divorce papers. I already filed the case and he has been served by the sheriff, but he said that he is not going to court. How can I get him to sign?
Brette's Answer: You don't need him to agree to obtain a legal divorce. He has been served and if he decides not to respond or appear, that's up to him. A religious divorce is an entirely different matter and is one you should take up with your local religious leader.
Madison's Question: My spouse needs to sign and notarize the final documents for our divorce. He is out of state and now refusing to contact me or send the paperwork back. I filed uncontested in the state of Indiana to avoid legal fees, is there no other option but to hire a lawyer now? It's been almost a year trying to get this finalized and I just want to have this done!
Brette's Answer: I would suggest scheduling a free consultation with a divorce attorney to understand what the state requires you to do. If you do need an attorney, it would likely only be for a few hours of work.
Thana's Question: My husband and I don't have a lot, just our personal things and the condo we are paying on. He says that I don't need a lawyer because his lawyer will get all the papers ready for us to sign. Should I need to see an attorney before I sign anything?
Brette's Answer: It's always a good idea to have a lawyer review the documents before you sign them. If there isn't a lot to divide and you're in agreement, and the paperwork makes sense to you, you could decide to use your own judgment. It wouldn't cost much to pay someone to review the papers for you though, so I do recommend that. Many attorneys will be happy to bill you for just an hour of their time to discuss something like this. Call around and get some rates.
Tracy's Question: My husband recommended an uncontested online divorce – it’s the quickest and cheapest. Property equity is involved, but I don’t understand the decree verbiage and he is insisting I sign and file. Are there affordable resources to just help me decipher the paperwork so I don’t lose everything?
Brette's Answer: You can pay an attorney a fee to read documents and consult. This should be doable with just a few hours billable hours. The other choice is to use an online paralegal service or a legal service site like LegalZoom.
D's Question: My husband hired an attorney and had paperwork filled out. I have received a letter requesting to come in and sign but have asked for the papers to be mailed emailed or even wanted to pick them up so I could look them over. I was told no on the mailing or email, and cannot get a response about picking them up to be looked over. What should I do? We have only been married 10 months.
Brette's Answer: You should be able to stop there and get a copy although it is ridiculous that they won't send you a copy.
Michelle's Question: My husband gave me papers to sign for our divorce he initiated. He said the one attorney would represent both of us. As I read the paper work it says the attorney only represents him. Can I obtain an attorney of my own and contest what's in the divorce papers even if I sign them?
Brette's Answer: You should not sign anything without consulting your own attorney.
Sherri Asks: My husband wants a divorce and I don't. Will I have to sign the divorce papers and what are the guidelines that have to be followed in this case?
Brette Answers: You don't have to sign papers agreeing to anything. But, you do need to respond to the petition when it is filed in order to contest the divorce. It is your right to go to court and ask the judge to decide the case.
Brandy's Question: The divorce settlement conference was completed and both parties came to an agreement. I received a notification that both parties need to go to the court house for us to sign the stipulation then the judge will sign off on it. If the agreement that we came up with has changed can we go back to the settlement conference/mediation? The other party wants to keep the agreement the way it is and I don't since the other party didn't keep to what we agreed on.
Brette's Answer: You should let the court know that you would like to go to a settlement conference instead of just coming in to sign.
Rose's Question: My husband served me with papers six years ago after being married for 5 years. I didn't sign because he didn't want to give me the annuity I was entitled to. I never heard anything since. I recently heard that he was getting remarried this coming month...how is this possible?
Brette's Answer: If you were properly served and did not respond or appear, the case probably continued as an uncontested case - meaning it was decided without you. You can get a copy of the finalized divorce from the court clerk where it was filed. A copy should have been sent to you.
Lydia's Question: I did not want a divorce but my husband filed. Throughout the court proceedings I kept expecting to sign something. I was not asked to sign any papers and yet was given a divorce. I hear all the time about people "signing papers" but never signed any agreement or anything to do with the divorce. How can someone divorce you and you never sign anything?
Brette's Answer: It varies by state. You only sign papers if you are agreeing to what your spouse is asking for or agreeing to a settlement. If you go through a court proceeding, you appear in person and the judge makes the decision.
Eva's Question: My ex told me his lawyer drew up some papers to finalize our divorce and asked if I would sign them. When the papers arrived, I noticed a lot of discrepancies in the documents and I think they are forged. I'm not signing anything that is different than the original dates and so forth. Can the courts make a judgment without me knowing? Should I contact his attorney (he is local) to show him copies of the papers? I have a feeling he didn't draw them up.
Brette's Answer: It sounds like you have serious questions about these papers. You should definitely contact your ex's attorney and find out what the situation is. A court won't make a ruling without giving you legal notice and a chance to appear.
Gigi's Question: The signature in the divorce petition is not mine. My husband is the petitioner. What do I do?
Brette: If in fact you did not sign the papers and did not participate in the process, there is an issue. Get an attorney if at all possible. If not, you need to file a motion to have it removed. Good luck.
Angela's Question: I'm getting remarried in June, and my ex called me stating that he did not sign the paperwork and that someone else did. I don't want to get married in June to find out that I was never divorced in the first place. Is there a way that I can delete this divorce and do it again before June? Please help me, I'm running out of time.
Brette's Answer: The first question I would have is if he didn't sign it, then who did? In most cases if this happens it's because the other party forged the name - but since you didn't then who would and why would they bother? It doesn't make sense. And how does he know there are papers if he never received them? This sounds a bit odd to me. Could he be lying so you feel you can't remarry? To do it again, you'll have to go to court and have him let the court know he never signed them and then have the papers signed by him. I think you should get a consultation with an attorney who can examine the papers that were filed as well as the affidavits of service and help you figure out what to do.
Lydia's Question: My husband is incarcerated and I have filed for divorce. He is disputing it and won't sign. I have his general durable power of attorney, so can I sign the divorce papers for him?
Brette's Answer: Even if your power of attorney is valid, you can't use it to sign the divorce papers.