Flirting Tips For Women

These flirting tips for women may be just what the doctor ordered if you're ready to get back into circulation. Let's face it, going through a divorce (and the marriage that led up to it) has a way of making you feel a little gun-shy around the opposite sex. But, it's not a permanent condition. You can regain your confidence and even catch the eye of that cute guy around the corner with these tips from Amanda Brown for awakening your inner-flirt.

The Art of Flirting

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Like all natural talents, some are born with it, some fake it, and some consider themselves hopeless. However, we all know that if practice doesn't make you perfect, it at least makes you a hell of a lot better than when you first started out. I'm an expert at this topic - ask anyone and they would definitely say I'm a natural flirt.

Even before I knew what flirting was, I knew people are always drawn to upbeat positive things. It's not necessary to save all of your flirting for that cute guy in line. How about the doorman that's constantly ignored or the old lady in front of the cute guy?

Flirting doesn't mean "I want your body!" It means I acknowledge that you're here, I think you're fab and fun, and isn't life marvelous?! Just think of those drab, dreary days when someone has given you a wink or a smile and instantly sparked you up. That is the foundation for flirting - the thing that I would call good old-fashioned sweetness.

With all things practice makes perfect. First, we must define the two types of flirting: Flirting for the Fun of It and Flirting with Intent. You must master the first before you can be a natural at the second. Flirt with everyone you encounter for the next 24 hours and see how much better your mood is for it!

Flirting for Fun

My fav of the two types; the one I constantly aspire to do on a daily basis - flirting for fun. The first thing to remember is to always be positive! Everyone is always drawn to the happy, beautiful, delight of a girl.

Even complaining can be charming if it's done well. Rolling your eyes about the wait at the valet station is fine as long as you've first had a patient, understanding look for at least two minutes and then follow the eye roll with a big smile and shrug as if to say "Oh well, if I'm here it's got to be fun!"

Treat everyone you meet as if they are truly a delight and you'll make a terrific first impression and brighten a lot of days. Now that being said, there is no need to appear that you've just ingested some suspicious mood altering chemical. Be fun and flirty, not an aggressive, happy clown.

Flirting with Intent

You step it up a notch when you do it with intent. Just remember this is not to be practiced on the weak at heart…even though a quick round of CPR can be fun when done on the right great looking man!

Here are a few tips that I live by:

1) Use accessories and I don't mean grandma's pearls! I've found that hats are the best conversation starter ever! Fun, stylish hats - not your ex's baseball cap. I know that hats aren't for everyone so if you're not comfortable with a hat choose something else that will generate conversation. A cool vintage coat or a jamming pair of shades. Try to always have an item on you or in your possession that "speaks."

If you want a cowboy, and who doesn't?! Rock a smokin' huge belt buckle with your jeans and boots. Business man your thing? Carry a dog eared copy of Wall Street Journal around. Just make sure you've at least got the basics down or you're headed for disaster!

2) Be a lady, and I use that term loosely! But Momma was right! Stand up straight, shoulders back, chest out, stomach in! Confidence shows in your posture. No one wants the wallflower chewing her cuticles on the sidelines. Walk into the room like you're the surprise everyone was waiting for! Lift your chin ¾ of an inch higher than normal. It's not snooty, it's confidence! Try it, it really does work!

3) Now, to that entrance. Every woman should have a trademark. Whether it's your unusual jewelry or your amazing hair, find yours and use it. Wear sexy shoes! Mine happens to be stilettos. I can walk into my fave little bar and the bartender greets me and then says "let's see 'em." I then kick up my leg to show whatever fantasy in leather I've chosen for the day. You won't catch me out of my heels unless I'm chillin' in sweats. Clean your house, walk the dog, do everything in them so that you are a natural in sexy shoes. Remember Tina Fabulous from the Bachelor that could throw and catch the perfect spiral in 5 inch stilettos? Now that's a real woman! Anyone laughing secretly wishes they could do the same!

4) So you've made your amazing entrance and spotted him. Have direct eye contact for 4 seconds (I like a slight wink here!). Then ignore him for 12 seconds and glance back for 2 seconds max! Yeah, he was waiting for the glance back! This is all done within the first minute of spotting him and you'll know whether or not it's a go. Now what you do from this point is completely up to you. Besides, if you've tried out these tips he should be sending a drink your way any moment!

Eat your hearts out boys!

Article by Amanda Brown - Amanda is a southern girl, dating and relationship expert and creator of the game "Playing the Field". Amanda invented the card game to help open up the lines of communication between men and women, making it easier for them to talk to each other. Using inspiration and ideas from her life as well as her friends, Amanda has turned the art of conversation into an opportunity to get to know people on a deeper level and ultimately decide if you should take the relationship any further.

In addition to these flirting tips for women who've been divorced, you can get more ideas on finding the right man for you, dating as a single mom, and more by reading the articles below: 

  1. Divorce
  2. Dating after Divorce
  3. Flirting Tips for Women