Dividing the home equity in divorce can be handled many ways, depending on the individual circumstances of the parties involved. The following questions and answer can help you understand the various options that exist when dividing the true value available in your home when you divorce.
Christy's Question: After we were married, we had a house built and have been living there for only 3 months. The mortgage was taken out in his name only, but we're both on the deed. He put the majority of the money down, but all the bills were split 50/50 after we moved in. Would he automatically get this house since he put most down or would it be likely that it is split because of it was built after the marriage?
Brette's Answer: What will happen with the house really is going to depend on what the rest of your finances look like. You'll each leave with assets that still exist, which you brought into the marriage. The marital assets will be split according to your state's law, which might say 50/50 or in an equitable (fair) way, depending on which state you are in. How the court will decide about the house is going to depend on what else you have to divide, what income was brought into the marriage and what funds your husband used for the down payment on the home. Even if he is given the house, you would be entitled to your portion (under your state's law) of the total marital assets. Talk to an attorney.
Rose's Question: I was awarded the family home with the order that I refinance the mortgage within a reasonable amount of time. There was no reference to an equity buyout or requirement related to the home. I'm preparing to refinance and my ex is demanding that I order an appraisal, provide him with the documents and pay him any equity in the house as of the current date. Is this correct, if it is not stated in the decree?
Brette's Answer: If the decree does not indicate the home equity is to be divided and you were made sole owner then you are not required to do that. Talk to an attorney who can read your decree and interpret it.
Katie's Question: I moved out of my house to a rental and I am asking for my half of the house. Isn't that half the value of the house? My ex is saying I only get half the equity.
Brette's Answer: The value of the home that can be divided would be the equity.
Lee's Question: Before we filed for this divorce we started to build a home for vacation purposes. Since the property was in the process of being built, the appraisal he had done only covered the land and improvements to the property and not the joint money we have both put towards permits, plans, concrete, plumbing, etc. Does the money we both put into building the house thus far go towards the value of the house no matter what the appraisal says?
Brette's Answer: You can get your own appraisal done if you don’t agree with his. Your attorney can explain to you how real estate is valued in your state. In general the court can only take the actual value of the property. That does not mean you can’t negotiate to the solution you are proposing or convince the court your point of view is correct.
Carolyn's Question: Our house and land is valued at around one hundred thousand dollars. There is forty eight thousand dollars still owed on it. If he settles with me would I get half of the one hundred thousand or the forty eight thousand if I let him keep the house?
Brette's Answer: There's no easy answer to this question because all of your marital assets and debts are divided in the divorce as a package. And in many states they are not always divided half and half. You might also have a car, furniture, retirement accounts, credit card debt, car loans, etc. All of these things have to be divided. So at the bottom of the balance sheet you would get half the asset and half the debts, but that doesn't mean you're going to get or be responsible for half of each separately. You might get a car and some retirement accounts and some credit card debt and he might get the home and the mortgage. Talk to an attorney and get a free consultation.
Jill's Question: Me and my husband are going through a divorce and we decided to sell the house. Our divorce will not be final until March 1st, and our house will go to closing Feb 11th. How do I request that the profits from the house be split 50/50 with the title company before we go to court? Do I have to have a written document?
Brette's Answer: This has nothing to do with the title company. Your real estate attorney will receive the check for the proceeds. You can ask him or her to split it however you want in accordance with the divorce. Or you can put it in a joint account and have it divided as part of the divorce property division. Good luck.
Christe's Question: Eight years ago, we sold our house and received some money back at settlement. We both had the money. He spent some and I spent some. I recently filed for divorce and he is saying I owe him some of that money back. He says he thinks back and now he thinks he didn't get enough 8 years ago. It was never a problem up until I filed for a divorce. And now he has been very angry and it's been a lot of mental abuse. I just wanted your advice about this.
Brette's Answer: I think it's up to him to prove it wasn't dispersed equally. And most people don't keep records that far back.
Lori's Question: My divorce isn't finalized yet, but my husband has decided to put our house on the market and said I have to wait until the house sells to get my part from it. It could take a year to sell; can I get my share first and then he sells it on his own?
Brette's Answer: This is something you must agree to or convince the court to order. If there is enough marital property so that you could get cash or property now it is possible, but the problem is you have no way of knowing how much the house would sell for, so it is hard to calculate what half of that will be.
Kathy's Question: I'm not on the mortgage but am on the deed. My spouse has threatened to sue me for 1/2 of the negative equity in the house should he sell it and have to come up with the money. Can he do that? He could afford to keep the house, but it would be tight. I could not afford the home and don't want it anyway. Also, can I get a mortgage on my own while going through the divorce process?
Brette's Answer: The mortgage is a marital debt and will be divided as part of your divorce. If additional money is due the bank after the home is sold, the balance will come out of marital assets. You can attempt to get a mortgage but will likely not qualify until the first one if paid off. » Return to top
Nicole's Question: My divorce agreement states my ex was supposed to pay me upon the sale of the home. I have recently found out that as of December last year, the home was foreclosed upon. Is there any way I can still get my settlement from him?
Brette's Reply: You need to talk with your attorney because it depends on how your decree is worded.
Ellen's Question: Hi Brette, I have been in a collaborative divorce process and we agreed upon a buyout for the house. I have already given my ex about $7,000 from the buyout in good faith. We are days away from signing the judgment and now he's suddenly pulled the plug on the whole collaborative process! He wants to go to trial because he wants more from the house buyout. Is the house buyout piece irrevocable because he already took money from it?
Brette's Answer: Not unless you have a court order. The trial court will take into account the funds that he accepted when calculating your property division.
Brooke's Question: My husband and I separated and are probably going to be divorced. We also own a home together. Can we simply agree on how the equity will be split, or are the legal laws giving us both rights to a certain amount of equity?
Brette's Answer: You can agree to anything as long as the court agrees it is fair. Good luck.
Rhonda's Question: I have 3 children ages 16, 14, and 13. We've been married 16 years and own 2 homes where we have a total equity of about $104,000. My daughter wants to live with me, my oldest son wants to live with his dad, and our youngest son wants equal time in both households. Would I be selling myself short by having him buy me out of the two houses and calling it even?
Brette's Answer: You should not agree to anything until you speak with a lawyer and discuss all your options. There are likely other assets and debts of the marriage that you need to consider, as well as alimony.
Janice Asks: We are getting divorced and I want to keep the house. The equity in the house is 60,000. If I want to keep it and buy him out, do I give him 30,000? Is that how it works?
Brette's Answer: You could give him $30k in cash, other assets or you could take on $30k in marital debt in exchange. This could be part of your divorce decree. You will need to present this to court as what you are asking for. It's up to the court to decide if this is a fair distribution of property and what the value of the home actually is.
Susan's Question: Our house was paid off with my inheritance from my mother. My husband has left but indicates he expects me to buy him out. Am I stuck? My mother wanted to protect me, but I'm afraid we did the wrong thing.
Brette's Answer: You should talk with an attorney who can review all of the documents and dates involved. In most states, if the home is marital property and you paid the mortgage off with an inheritance, you converted the inheritance to marital property. The entire value of the home is marital property to be divided in that kind of scenario. Get someone to review your specific case.
Laura's Question: My husband has stated he would like to buy me out of our marital home by paying me 1/2 of the equity. He is a realtor and is stating that the equity will be decreased based on closing costs and other taxes that might apply if we sold it. Is that true? Can the house value or equity be decreased based on "selling" taxes or closing costs?
Brette's Answer: All of this is negotiable and there's no wrong way or right way. If a court ordered him to buy you out, it is likely you would not have these costs deducted if he is remaining in the home.
Question: We bought our house prior to getting married and are both of us are on the deed. His mother paid for new siding, which was being finished right around the time I announced I wanted to leave. He is planning on staying in the house and thinks if the house is appraised, I'll get value I don't deserve since his mom paid for it. Should I deduct the value of the siding from an appraisal when determining the buyout?
Brette's Answer: Generally something like that would be considered a gift to both of you unless it was specifically made to just your spouse. You should talk with an attorney who can evaluate your entire financial situation and give you personal legal advice.
Claudia's Question: My husband and I separated 8 months ago and he moved out of the marital home. The home has been on the market, but with no interested buyers. I just found out he's has not paid the mortgage in two months and we are facing foreclosure. He wants to refinance and buy me out so that I have money to buy another home. How does this work, and would it be a wise thing to do?
Brette's Answer: You need to consult an attorney who'll advise you about the best steps to take in your situation. Getting your cash out of the house now is likely a good opportunity for you, so you should pursue this.
Sara's Question: I divorced 3 years ago & am now in the financial position to buy my ex out of the family home (which I live in with the kids). I am offering him 50% of the equity, is he legally obliged to accept this offer?
Brette Answers: No, not unless your decree says so.
Nancy's Question: I used some money from a retirement account I owned prior to marriage to help build 2 houses. Am I entitled to the money I invested in the property?
Brette's Answer: If the houses were separate property (your name only) it remains separate. If they were joint property you have likely converted those funds to marital but you really need to discuss this with a family law attorney who can explain your state's laws.
Ali Asks: We've been married eighteen years and our home is paid for. I had to quit work 5 years ago because of health issues and we have the home for sale, but my husband says I didn't work as hard and put the money in the home like he did, and refuses to agree to any settlement.
Brette Replies: The home is a marital asset and will be divided as such. Get an attorney.
Kathi's Question: When my husband and I purchased our house we used money from an IRA account that was from employment before we were married. If I buy him out of the house, am I entitled to that money back from him before any money is given to him?
Brette's Answer: The issue is whether you converted that separate property into marital property by investing it in a marital home. It depends on what the intent was at the time and what your understanding was. If it was intended to remain separate property, then it's yours. If the intent was to commingle and convert to marital property then it became marital property.
Lorranda's Question: My husband of 13 years and I live on property that belongs to his family. I will be the one that has to leave our home since it is sitting on HIS family's property. We are still paying for the house and pool and my name is on both notes. He will assume both notes with no fuss, but what about the 13 years I'VE invested into the loan? Will I get any of that back? Or do I just move out and start all over from scratch and consider it a lesson learned?
Brette's Answer: No, you most certainly do not walk away with nothing! The equity is marital property and will be distributed in the divorce. This means that if he's going to keep the house, you're going to be entitled to take other property (such as investments, car, cash, etc.). You should schedule a consultation with a family attorney who can go over your rights with you.
Janice's Question: I put $53,000 down on a house with Inheritance money from separate funds. The house is now in my name. I owe $393,000 and the house value is around $400,000. I was told by others that I would have to split $7,000 in equity, but I could not get my original amount back from my spouse because there is no equity to subtract it from? I was under the assumption that he would have to pay it back to me.
Brette's Answer: I'm not sure why you think he should have to pay it back to you. Should he be awarded possession of the home, I could perhaps see it then, but if you keep the house that's not how it would work. You need to go see a divorce lawyer who'll help you determine what if anything your spouse contributed to the value and upkeep of the home.
Tiffany's Question: I deposited all my saving cash into my husband’s bank account to purchase a mobile home a long time ago. My husband and I and my daughter are legal owners of the house. If we are getting divorce, will the value of this house divided by 3? Also, I have a safety deposited box in the bank with my name as a primary and my daughter as a secondary. When it comes to dividing the assets, will my husband get a share of this box or not?
Brette's Answer: With regard to a mobile home owned by you, your husband, and your daughter, you need to talk to an attorney. If it was obtained during the marriage, it is marital property. The question will be what portion belongs to you and your husband vs. what portion belongs to your daughter. Her portion is not divisible in the divorce.
If the items in the safe deposit box are marital property, they will be divided in the divorce. If they are separate property (something you owned before the marriage or received as a gift or injury settlement during the marriage), they are yours.
Bridgette's Question: I moved in with my husband to the top floor of his mother's house, which she bought before we were married. After we moved in I gave my husband a check each month to help pay what I thought was the mortgage, but now he has informed me I was just paying rent. The mortgage was in my husband's and his brother's name and the deed was always in his Mom's name. Seven years ago she refinanced the mortgage so that the mortgage and deed are now only in her name. Am I entitled to any equity in this house?
Brette's Answer: From what you've said, it sounds as though your husband was never an owner, therefore he does not own any equity and there is none for you to ask for in the divorce.
Christina's Question: My mother and I decided to buy a home together to help my husband and me with our children. My mother put about 90% off the money down and I put the other 10%. Is my husband able to go after the percentage that my mother put into the house or is he only entitled to a portion of the 10% that I put in of my money?
Brette: You need to talk to an attorney because it depends on if it was meant to be a gift, if he contributed to mortgage payments or upkeep, as well as what the intent was.
Sue's Question: My husband and I are divorcing. I just found out that he transferred the title of a duplex that he built during the time we have been married to my son. My son is trying to sell it now and planning on buying his own house. The duplex is only in my husband’s name, but I thought I would be entitled to half the funds from the sale.
Brette's Answer: You need to talk to your attorney. If the asset was acquired during marriage with marital funds, it is a marital asset and will be divided in the divorce.
Wendy's Question: My husband and his sister were willed their grandparents house. My husband bought his sister's share from her using a line of credit on our paid for house that we both signed for. He has made all the monthly payments on that line of credit since. Do I have any claim on that house?
Brette's Answer: Yes a portion of that house will be considered marital property since marital funds were used to purchase a share of it.
Nicole's Question: My husband used about $75k of his inheritance to purchase our marital home. I have provided cash for our mortgage over the past 10 years - but solely paid for a $13k patio that was added to the property. Now that we are divorcing, he claims he is entitled to the full $75k back out of the equity to be reimbursed for his inheritance. Can he demand the full $75k be reimbursed. I was under the impression that it is considered commingling and the sale of our home is then subject to a 50/50 split of equity?
Brette's Answer: You should meet with an attorney to discuss the specific facts of your situation. In most states, when separate funds are used to buy joint property during the marriage, they are converted to marital property.
Lucy's Question: We built a house 2 years ago and my parents helped with $40K which we put into the house. We have only about $80K in equity if we sell today at market price. Am I entitled to the $40K my parents sent me or do I have to share it with him?
Brette's Answer: You need to talk to your attorney but it appears you converted this gift (which would be separate property) into marital property when you used it to buy a residence in both your names.
Rhonda's Question: We sold our first home several years ago and used that equity along with a "gift" his father gave us for the down payment on second home. His father's name is on the deed. Do we have to give back his dad's gift when equity is split in the divorce?
Brette's Answer: A gift doesn't have to be returned. If the gift was to both of you it isn't a problem. The issue will be the father-in-law's name of the deed. Technically he is an owner in the property. You need to consult with an attorney who will help you work through this.
Stephanie's Question: In the state of Florida, a son co-signs for his dad on a mortgage. The son will sign the mortgage as a non-occupying married person and that his wife has no interest in the property. The son is now getting a divorce. Can a judge side with the "wife" and allow her to have interest in the Dad's Home?
Brette: You need to consult a FL attorney about this, but in this kind of situation essentially the son is accepting responsibility for the debt without becoming an owner of the property. Therefore there's nothing for the wife to get. Now, if the son is listed on the deed that is another matter. The deed is what gives ownership in the property.
Annie's Question: I was married about 4 years ago and now my husband wants a divorce. We live in the house that he purchased prior to our marriage and he is paying for the mortgage. As part of a divorce settlement would I be entitled to any portion of the house value?
Brette's Answer: This is a question I am asked frequently. If you contributed to the upkeep or improvement of the home, or if marital funds were used to pay the mortgage, then yes, you would be entitled to a portion of the equity. You should talk with an attorney in your area who can look at all of the financial information and tell you what to expect.
Loleta's Question: My husband owned his home before we got married, but we put in many permanent improvements during our marriage. All remodeling was paid out of marital assets. In divorce I have to leave his home with all the improvements behind. He claims they are all his now. What is your suggestion in regaining compensation?
Brette's Answer: The increase in equity would be a marital asset, and you can ask that it be divided in the divorce.
Lydia's Question: I am not married, but we have a house (in both of our names) and a child together. I have paid 50% of the mortgage since the beginning. Am I able to receive 1/2 the equity in this situation, even though we weren't married?
Brette's Answer: Yes, you would be entitled to half of it. Good luck.
Susan's Question: I bought my home 21 years ago when I was single. I married about 2 years ago and now want a divorce. Is he entitled to 1/2 of the equity in the home now? Also, can he make me sell?
Brette's Answer: No, but he may be entitled to a portion of the equity that accumulated during marriage. If he contributed to the value of the home - making mortgage payments, painting, retiling the bathroom, or even just mowing the lawn, it is possible he could be entitled to something. Even though he may be entitled to a portion of the equity in the home, but that doesn't mean you have to sell the house. If he's entitled to $4000, then that $4000 could come out of marital savings or other marital property. You should talk to an attorney.
Linda's Question: My spouse abandoned the house over 10 years ago and I have been making the payments. Would he get half the value of what the house was worth 10 years ago or what the value of the house is today?
Brette Answers: You should consult with a divorce attorney who can review you entire financial situation. Generally, property is divided as of the value at the date of separation.
Lisa's Question: I am hoping to buy a new house for me and my children when my husband buys me out. Can I sign a contract for a home before our divorce is final or would it be considered marital property? My second question is...my husband owns 2 other houses that he is planning on remodeling soon. If he has this work done while we are still married, am I entitled to the equity of those houses too?
Brette's Answer: First off, you need an attorney. Secondly, property is usually divided as of the date of separation - a purchase you make before the decree is usually not a problem, unless you use funds that are not decided to be yours. If your husband has not remodeled the homes yet and there is no increase in equity, the property is divided as of value at the date of separation. Improvements made after this date with funds determined to be his are not something that would be divided in the divorce. You do need to speak with a lawyer though simply because of the amount of property involved. If the property he owns increased in value during the marriage you may be entitled to a portion of that increase in equity.
Ellen's Question: We've been divorced for 5 1/2 years and I'm still living in the marital home with my children. I have been paying the mortgage on the house and the taxes on my own for the last 5 years. When I sell the house does it get split 50/50 even though he has not contributed toward the mortgage or upkeep? I know its half his house, but it doesn't seem fair if he gets half when I have been the one paying the mortgage and real estate taxes.
Brette's Answer: No, the past few years' equity would be yours. When you sell it, you would simply divide the proceeds so that you are paid for that portion of it. You should consult your attorney to be certain how the state your divorce was in would handle it.
Lori's Question: In our settlement agreement, we agreed to split the equity evenly when our home sold. Since the divorce, I have paid the mortgage alone for 10 years. Can I modify the agreement or do I still have to split the equity 50/50?
Brette's Answer: It sounds as if your ex would be entitled to the half the equity of the property at the date of divorce. Most likely, the property has appreciated since then and is worth more. Another way to approach this is to take the equity of the home today, less the amounts you put into the property and split that. An attorney can advise you about how best to handle this.
» Return to top
O's Question: When I got a divorce, I foolishly said my ex could sell the house at his discretion because my daughter and grandson were still living there. I was supposed to get $21,000 when sold. It has been 12 years and he has remarried and had his new wife put on property. He now has early dementia. Will I ever get money?
Brette's Answer: If your judgment says he has to pay when the house is sold, you have an enforceable right to the amount you are owed if the house is ever sold, even if it is at his death, or by someone who has his power of attorney.
Vivien's Question: The mortgage is in my husband's name, and both of our names are on the deed. He has agreed to give me the house and the equity in exchange of child support because he can't afford to move on with his income (and I make more money). This will allow me to sell the home and buy my mother's home, and secure a better home for the kids. How can this be done?
Brette Replies: You should talk to a divorce lawyer who can assist you in deciding which option makes the most sense. You can both sell the house and then have the proceeds go to you. Or he can quit claim the deed to you and you can refinance the mortgage into your own name and then sell it. If you're doing this in exchange for child support, it's very important that you have an attorney help you draw up a settlement that will pass the court's scrutiny - you're opting out of child support and this has to be done carefully. You also need to make sure that the proceeds of the house are part of the property settlement and not considered alimony.
Colleen's Question: My father gave my mother the family home and gave me his equity to help pay for my education. Now I'm confused. What exactly was given to me? How do I find out how much equity he has? When can I use the equity? Is the equity a loan I must pay if I use for my education?
Brette's Answer: Have you talked to your mother about this? Since you are now co-owners of the home, you should. From what you've said, your dad has transferred his interest in the home to you. You can turn this into cash by having your mother buy you out, selling the home and splitting the profits with your mom, or taking out a home equity loan.
Bev's Question: I have filed for an uncontested divorce, and want to make things as fair as possible. I feel that it would strain his budget if he refinanced our home right now, so I offered to continue paying $200 towards the principal for 4 years so that it would being down the mortgage. At that time, he could refinance the loan and pay me my share of the equity at that point. He doesn't think that this is a good idea. What do you think?
Brette's Answer: I think it would be very foolish of you to offer to do something like this before talking to an attorney who can explain your rights and the various ways property settlements can be arranged. Get some advice before doing anything.
Pat's Question: I am going through a divorce, but he will not agree to anything, so this will be going to trial. Meanwhile, I paid the high mortgage for a year until it was sold. He will not agree to split the equity so it is held in escrow. This has become a very ugly divorce and I have tried to give more than my fair share to get this over with. It's been a year and a half trying to get it all settled, and I getting tired and stressed. My legal fees are increasing with each court appearance, and it's hard to pay because the money is being held in escrow!
Brette's Answer: I hope you have a good attorney - if not you might want to consider finding someone else. You're certainly entitled to a portion of the proceeds of the home and the fact that you paid the mortgage for a year should impact your award. Ask about seeking for him to pay your legal fees. Unfortunately, the courts move slowly, so your case will get through the system eventually.
Pat's Question: My divorced was finalized June 17th. I was awarded the equity from the home in the final judgment. He has until Sept 17th to give me the money. If he doesn't pay me the equity, what procedures do I take to get my money?
Brette's Answer: Check with your court clerk. You will need to file a violation or enforcement action.
Donna's Question: I signed the quitclaim deed transferring ownership and the divorce decree states this he is to pay my share of the equity which accrued in the home. I have a check for the amount of the equity he owes. Am I liable for taxes on this?
Brette's Answer: Property distributions in a divorce judgment are not taxable income. You should consult with your attorney though to be certain it is characterized as property settlement.
Sharon's Question: I understand that equity in the home taken as cash in a property settlement is not taxable income, but how do I get it classified this way?
Brette's Answer: Your divorce decree will state what it is and that is your proof.
Heidi's Question: I signed papers giving my husband the house. Now that he moved his girlfriend and her 4 kids into the house, I want my fair share. Is there anything I can do after the divorce is finalized?
Brette Answers: You can't modify the terms of the property settlement just because you changed your mind. There needs to some change in circumstance. » Back to Equity Questions
Suzie's Question: My ex-husband and I are co-signers on mortgage for a house he is currently living in. He and his current wife are now in a process of filing a divorce, and I am asking him to sell the house in order to remove my name from the mortgage. They have done some renovation to the house, however her name was never on the mortgage. As a part of their divorce settlements, she is asking for 50% of the money they have spent on renovation and 50% right to the house. Does she have any equity right to this house when she wasn't / isn't on the mortgage?
Brette's Answer: You need to talk to an attorney to help you sort this out. Being on a mortgage does not give a person an ownership right to the home. The home ownership issues should have been addressed in your divorce. If your spouse received full ownership, what happens with him and his wife isn't really something that impacts you.
However, if you were granted partial ownership of the home in the divorce, then you do own part of it. In this kind of situation where a home is owned by Wife1 and husband, let's say they each are entitled to 50% of the home. So 50% of the property is Husband's separate property. If during the course of his marriage to Wife2 she contributes financially or through work to the upkeep and improvement of the property, she might have a claim to a portion of Husband's 50% ownership stake. This is all speculation and you need an attorney who can investigate all of the facts and actions the parties have taken.
Damecia's Question: In our divorce decree 15 years ago it says that I am “divested of all right, title, and interest in and to” our marital home. I don’t believe I was ever removed from the deed. My ex is now wanting to sell the home. Would I be entitled to any money acquired from selling the home?
Brette's Answer: No, since the decree stated you do not.
Copyright WomansDivorce.com | Updated January 6, 2020
Related FAQs and Articles: