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When Words Hurt

Do words hurt?  It depends on who you are asking; the person hearing the words, or the one saying those words. The perpetrator may say that "It's just words" or "I really didn't mean it", but the damage has already been done. 

Continued over time, the words begin to sink in and wear away at a woman's self-worth.  She may begin to believe what is being said, not realizing that it is a distorted version of reality. Unfortunately, many women enduring verbal abuse don't even consider leaving or getting a divorce until things turn physical.  To help you understand the damage that words can inflict, the article below discusses the similarities between verbal and physical abuse.

Do Words Really Hurt? 

Have you ever been told by someone that you love or by someone of higher authority that words don't hurt? Have you been told that as long as you are not being hit, that it is ok to be abused?

Well think again because "ABUSE" is abuse whether it is done physical, emotional or both and it affects women's health just the same because both can leave lifetime scars that will and can hurt you in both your personal and professional life. The old myth has always been, if you are being physically abused to get out while those who were being emotionally abused were seemed to be told nothing! Is it a fact that words don't hurt?

If that holds true, then does it only become physical abuse when a bruised body part becomes obvious to others? Well, what about an emotional abused person? Does it only become emotional abuse when you have started to believe what you're told?

Really there is no difference in how emotional and physical abuse affects the mind, body and spirit. Take these thoughts into consideration for a minute or two. A woman who is said to be going through physical abuse also goes through emotional abuse with every kick or hit that's encountered. Ask them what were they feeling?

Most would tell you that person may or not used words but they surely felt hatred by the person who abused them. Now let's go through the same process for the women who's said to be going through emotional abuse. She too experiences physical abuse with every spoken word that strikes and attacks her mind, body and spirit.


Article by Angela Renee Baker, a wife, a mother of three and an infopreneur that works to assist all mothers especially those with newborns and pre-teens with every single aspect of their life as a woman, as a partner, and as a mother. 

As you can see, words hurt as much as physical abuse.  If your currently dealing with a verbally abusive relationship, you might benefit from reading The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize it and How to Respond. It can help you uncover and understand the damage that's being done to you.  Below, you can find other articles that deal with other aspects of abusive relationships:

Quote of the Day
Abuse is the weapon of the vulgar.
- Samuel Griswold Goodrich

Emotional Abuse
Understanding Psychological Abuse
How Abuse Affects Children
Recovery For Survivors Of Abuse
More Articles on Abusive Relationships

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