There is nothing innocent about online infidelity and internet
affairs. Even though there may be no physical contact between
the participants, the emotional involvement can hurt, or even
destroy a marriage. If you are concerned that your spouse is
involved in an internet affair, the following suggestions can help
you regain control over the situation.
Learn How To
Break Free
FromThe Affair!
Internet infidelity isn't about innocent games or what you have been led to
believe by your spouse. The not-so-innocent seekers like the net because it is
safe, anonymous and its very thrilling. You know this too, so don't let this
intrusion slip by. Why do you think you are feeling so betrayed?
You must take control of your situation as fast as possible.
Don't let the
situation slide. Sure you can install the spy software on your computer and
monitor your spouse but is this the way you want to live? Internet
infidelity is a very addicting behavior that can destroy your marriage quickly.
Internet Infidelity Prevention Guidelines
Admit there is a problem affecting your relationship with the internet
activities and discuss them with your spouse. Convey to your spouse how you
exactly feel.
Move the computer into a public place where you are likely to be i.e. the
corner of your living room, set up a small desk.
Utilize the internet NOW for only important usage -- If they have to be on
the net for banking, etc. stay in the same room with them.
Get them involved in real life physical activities outdoors or hobbies and
reading. Find a replacement for the net activities such as playing games, cards,
etc. Remember they are an addict so you will have to find them fun ideas for
replacement.
Don't let them use the internet when they are feeling uncomfortable,
stressed, irritated, mad or sad about something happening in their life.
Get them off the net as soon as possible.
Nurture their success and pat them
on the back. Keep in mind they have to want to change their behavior so that you
are able to trust them again. Do they understand how it began, became a problem
in the first place and what they did was such a problem to you? They have to
totally accept what they have done and take ownership for the damage they have
caused. Get your partner to come to an agreement about this issue and hold up to
their end of the deal.
Copyright 2006 by AskMaple, infidelity survivor, advisor, and author of
"Stopping Internet Infidelity". When you read this Ebook you
will have the answers and a better understanding as to exactly what is
occurring. Don't lay awake every night while your spouse is on the
internet.
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Quote of the Day
In cases of Internet infidelity, recovery cannot begin until ground rules are
established in the use of the computer
- Shirley Glass
