Helpful Divorce Books
Below, you will find some of the best books on divorce for women, from making the decision and working through the legal issues, to helping your children cope and starting over.
Deciding on Divorce
Should You Stay or Should You Go?
Considering Leaving Your Relationship? Want to make sure
you're making the right decision? Discover a powerful new process that will help
you decide what's right for you.
A
Practical Guide to Deciding Whether or Not To Get A Divorce
Is your
marriage on the rocks and you aren't sure if divorce is the
answer? Do you ever feel paralyzed emotionally because you're
unsure what to do as you suffer through each day with a marriage
that isn't the way you want it? Finally, a step-by-step
action plan to help you decide if you should seriously consider divorce.
Thinking Divorce? Think Again
Should you get a divorce? Only you can answer that question, but this book will help you make an informed decision. Written by divorce
attorney Lorie Fowlke, this book highlights the realities of divorce and it's
aftermath so that you can proceed with a real understanding of how divorce
affects all areas of your life.
Divorce Preparation Books:
Divorce 101: A Woman's Guide To Divorce
Get the facts about divorce before it's too late.
Comprehensive information to help you navigate the issues of your divorce and
control the outcome.
The Divorce Organizer and Planner
Brette McWhorter Sember, a retired divorce attorney and mediator, helps guide you through the divorce
process, giving you the tools to help you create a
complete, accessible record of everything you will need to prepare for divorce,
as well track alimony child support, and more after the divorce.
Divorce and Money
Emphasizing the difference between legal reality and financial
reality, this guide shows how to evaluate assets--including houses, businesses,
retirement plans, and investments--during divorce.
No-Fight Divorce
End your marriage on your own terms and without the cost and heartache of a
traditional divorce. No-Fight Divorce provides you with all you need to know to
take advantage of mediation, a proven alternative to traditional divorce that is
less time-consuming, far less expensive, and a whole lot more civilized. Written
by former family law attorney and mediator Brette McWhorter, this book explains what mediation is, how it works, and how to use it to take control of
your divorce and work with your partner. You'll get checklists,
questionnaires, logs, and communication techniques that will help you stay
organized. Plus, there is professional guidance on how to mediate key divorce issues,
including property settlements, alimony, child support and custody, as well as
information on how to review your final settlement, and what you need to do to
make the settlement legal.
The Complete Guide to Protecting Your Financial Security When Getting a Divorce
Every woman needs to understand the financial aspects of divorce before signing the final decree. Learn about the pitfalls to avoid, review various settlement scenarios and solutions, and understand how to negotiate a money-wise settlement.
Make Any Divorce Better!
Get specific steps to make your divorce smoother, faster, less painful, and save yourself a lot of money in the process. Also include with this book is a CD containing worksheets to help you determine assets and debts, work out a parenting agreement, child support guidelines and enforcement, and more.
Divorce Preparation Books - This is another section that includes specific guides on divorce, custody, support, alimony, separation, and property division.
Books on Children and Divorce:
Joint Custody With A Jerk
Learn how to deal with a difficult ex-husband who
makes joint custody hard to handle. From learning about the
common problems of parenting with an uncooperative spouse, to
finding solutions to effectively communicate with your ex, this
is a good read for anyone who feels that their custody situation is
out of hand.
A Family's Heartbreak: A Parent's Introduction to Parental Alienation
For a true look into the world of parental alienation from a parent's viewpoint, please read "A Family's Heartbreak". This book takes you into the everyday life and challenges of an alienated parent. You can experience the bewilderment and grief as the author watches his son being turned against him. You can relate to his frustration with the slow-moving legal system unwilling to step in and do anything about the injustices that are taking place. From his work with the various counselors, legal advisors, and therapists, the author gives you his insight on the pitfalls that lay ahead for alienated parents. A must-read for anyone going through parental alienation.
How to Parent with Your Ex
This is a special
"flip" book, with one side for custodial parents and one side
for non-custodial parents, This is the only book on the market that
specifically talks about how to live with a visitation schedule, with an
emphasis on creating a life for your child that is free of arguments, disputes,
and bad feelings.
Hands on, practical advice is offered about the day to day things that can derail a visitation plan. This book helps you avoid visitation pitfalls, explains how to modify the plan yourself and most importantly shows you ways to make it work without killing each other or upsetting your child.
The Child Custody Book
This guide fully, clearly, and concisely explains the process of
court child custody litigation. It shows how custody decisions are made, what
can be expected at each stage of the process, and how parents can insure that
their abilities are clearly presented to persons with influence over the custody
decision. It is intended to eliminate surprises that could lead to costly
mistakes along the way.
What Every Woman Should Know About Divorce and Custody (Rev): Judges, Lawyers, and Therapists Share Winning Strategies on How to Keep the Kids, the Cash, and Your Sanity
The title says it all. This revised edition focuses mainly on custody issues, but also discusses a wide range of legal strategies, risk factors for women, as well as financial and psychological issues.
The Co-Parenting Survival Guide: Letting Go of Conflict after a Difficult Divorce.
This resource helps
parents in the aftermath of divorce learn how to sustain a healthy co-parenting
relationship. “Conflict and Parenting” explores parental conflict and its
effects on children, conflict resolution, and the importance of forging a
co-parenting relationship. “Co-Parenting Guidelines” offers specifics for
solving day-to-day problems, disciplining, and handling conflict during
transitional times and special events.
Books to Help Children Cope With Divorce:
Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce
"Of all the how-to advice about divorce on the market, the
best is probably wrapped up in " Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the
Sandcastles Way". It's sympathetic, practical and loving; it covers all the
problems faced by children of divorce; and it gives an excellent rundown of the
reactions you can expect, age by age." -- The Washington Post
My Stick Family is an excellent book that captures the essence of children's feeling about divorce, putting into words the emotions that children experience during this turbulent time.
It's Not Your Fault, Koko Bear
Vicki Lansky provides a comforting way of going through an
inevitably painful process while gently showing children that they didn't cause
the breakup. Because small children in particular often have trouble
understanding new everyday arrangements, this can help children learn how to cope with
and express new feelings.
Taking the "Duh" Out of Divorce is a video that your children will enjoy watching. Following the cartoon adventure of Skye and Jack, kids can see that what they are experiencing is normal and that divorce is not the end of the world. I recommend it to help your children cope with the emotions of divorce.
I Can't Want To
" I Can't Want To" by Michelle Shillings is a wonderful book that young children of divorce and separation can relate to. Inspired by her young son's frustrations over having two homes, Michelle is able to put into words the feelings young children experience over visitation and the changes that go along with it. Children will be comforted by the simple message that it's okay to be upset when Mommy and Daddy don't live together anymore. And adults will appreciate the opportunity to talk with their children about how they feel about their situation. The illustrations by Brenda Lovejoy are adorable and will engage youngsters as well as the adults reading to them. Definitely a "keeper". Review by Tracy Achen from WomansDivorce.com
Books on Starting Over:
95 Transformational Tips For Letting Go and Moving On After Your Divorce
Divorce Recovery Life Coach, Speaker and Author, Shelley Stile has created a step-by-step guide to move you through the emotional upheaval of divorce. These powerful, succinct tips will guide you to let go of the pain of your divorce and reclaim your enthusiasm and optimism for life. They provide a common sense direction for healing and creating a new life after divorce. A tip read and absorbed everyday for three months will find you back in control and ready to embrace your new life. Stile leads you to a full acceptance of this new reality minus the destructive negative emotions associated with divorce. Having gone through her own divorce and working with men and women trying to put their lives back together, Shelley has amassed deep wisdom that she imparts to you via her 95 tips.
Leaving Him Behind: Cutting the Cord and Breaking Free After the Marriage Ends
Learn how to move on after your divorce, put your life back together, and become the woman you were meant to be.
Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends...
The one book that doesn't try to help you with being single, without first showing you how to deal with the emotional trauma that divorce brings. It will help you make sense out what is going on in your life, help you make it through this terrible time, and help you get it together enough to make decisions that seen overwhelming!
Single Again: A Guide for Women Starting Over
For help in getting through the devastation of losing a husband, making order out of chaos, adapting to your changed life, and carving out your independent identify, this is a great book to help you get started. It's full of practical tips for women who find themselves single after many years of marriage, with inspiring stories of other women who've been in your shoes.
The Journey from Abandonment to Healing: Turn the End of a Relationship into the Beginning of a New Life
Readers have found this book very helpful with working through the emotions that go along with divorce. The book discusses the five stages of abandonment, exercises for managing the pain and rediscovering the capacity for love, plus it provides a complete program for abandonment recovery.
Wife Goes On
This is a deliciously fun and realistic look at starting over and new beginnings. From the uncertainty of being single again, to the everyday demands of single-motherhood, this book touches on so many of the realities of being a divorced woman. With disappointments and hope, heartbreak and laughter, you'll quickly identify with the heroines and rejoice as each learns how to live their life on their own terms. Read the full review...
The Courage To Be a Single Mother: Becoming Whole Again After Divorce
The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again...
This guide goes beyond teenagers and singles who have
never married, explaining the range of dating options available today and
provides practical tools that help readers assess their needs, research their
options, and make decisions accordingly.
The Breakup Diary
This is a good resource to help you put your feelings about your ex into perspective and begin to heal the wounds to your heart. It is a self-directed journal that has exercises to help you pinpoint specific problems in the relationship and come to terms with the issues. I found it very helpful in the breakup of my long-term relationship.
Daisy Dooley Does Divorce
This
was a book that I could identify with. I too am a forty
something divorcee with a lot of the same hang-ups. Daisy's misadventures in her
quest to find the perfect mate post-divorce highlight what many of us in the
single scene go through. I could relate to her obsession with self-help books,
and laugh at her portrayal of real family life (which was way out there, just
like most of ours). Although it was a witty and fun read, it was also down to
earth and exposed the reality of the dating scene today. I enjoyed the book and
would recommend it to all newly divorced women to help them realize that they
are not alone. Contributed by WomansDivorce.com staff contributor Laurie
Kennedy.
GET OVER IT!!!: A DOWN TO EARTH LOOK AT THE ISSUES OF CHRISTIAN DIVORCE AND REMARRIAGE
This is a labor of love that gives insight into the issues and emotions people face as divorced children of god. By addressing your hurts and fears, feelings of rejection, anger, bitterness, and low self esteem, you can begin to move on. Read the full review of Get Over It...
Books on Men
Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
Understand what is going on when the one you love comes to dominate your
life. This is a very thorough guide on the mind set of controlling men that
can help you understand why he does what he does.
The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize it and How to Respond
If you're struggling with a controlling husband and feel that nothing you do is right, then this book is for you. In this book you'll find validation about what you're feeling, understanding about your situation, and encouragement to change the situation. Do yourself a favor and read this book so that you can understand your situation.
How To Survive Your Boyfriends Divorce
When your boyfriend is not quite married,
not quite single, and not quite divorced, it can be chaos. A relationship during
this time is certainly not an affair, but it is not just standard dating either.
If you are the "girlfriend" of a married man in the midst of a
divorce, you need to read this book. It's a quick and easy read, revealing
what your choices and options are in this type of relationship.