Mid life crisis
He left because he felt like he had lost himself. I guess he had a mid-life crisis at the age of 30. He said that he felt like the choices he made were not his own or things he didn't really want. Much to my dismay, I went along with everything. We decided to start "dating" after I moved out, but that didn't last very long.
I wanted to work on it, try to fix whatever seemed to be broken, but I realized that his heart wasn't truly in it. Even though he kept saying he wanted to be separated, but wasn't ready to give up on our marriage, I got absolutely NOTHING from him. I mean a big black void of emptiness.
I finally confronted him about it and he asked me for a divorce for a third time. (Yes, third time). Since then I haven't seen him, spoken to him, nothing. He does help out financially where it is needed, but he doesn't want to do that much longer.
I'm curious though. If he is the one asking for a divorce and he is the one that wants to leave, why am I the one filing the paperwork and getting the lawyers and getting everything taken care of?