Inappropriate relationships with other women

by Amber

My husband was having so many inappropriate relationships with women. He had a lot of "friends" that he met on conferences and a lot of "friends" from work that he would take out one on one for "lunch." The funny thing is that he covered up these "friends" and hid them, deleting texts and emails when I started to get suspicious.

When he was in the hospital for brain cancer, I stayed by his side and nursed him back to health, since I had no idea of these relationships at that point. I was repaid by finding out he was corresponding and trying to meet up with a woman he met at a conference. When he was confronted, he denied, denied, denied. Luckily, I had the texts before he was able to delete them.

Friendships are one thing, but friendships with women that you try to hide from your spouse are another thing. Most affairs start at work, and my husband was no different. A few months after we separated, a friend of mine found out he was on a lot of dating websites. He lost his job because of some unethical behavior, and it doesn't surprise me. Why a dedicated wife and four beautiful children are not enough to fulfill the person you chose to be with forever is beyond me.

He has lost everything, his job, his family, respect, and yet he still proceeds to look for women rather than within himself for inner-peace. I feel sorry that he's so unhealthy mentally. I only asked him to leave when I found out his cancer was gone, but I cannot tolerate the disrespect of hiding relationships in a marriage.