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He never grew up

by Tracy
(IL)

We have been married for over twelve years and he never grew up. We aren’t divorced yet, but I’m working on figuring everything out so I can do this. My husband lies about everything and is very immature. He doesn't know how to manage our money so I took over that chore. He supposedly forgets almost everything I ask him to do, so I do it. Now I handle almost all the responsibilities and it's getting harder now because we have sons and they are not seeing a "man" as their father. My therapist thinks he may have ADD but at this point I don't care too much. He lies about the smallest things yet he does not trust me.

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How much is enough NEW
by: Anonymous

I have serious trust issues, I must, I had my wife's phone she recieved a text from one of her girlfriends, Her text to her girlfriend was, "I am just playing along until I have enough to leave"
For her, enough is a 100,000.00 dollars.
She has a set dollar amount and to be honest if I had 100,000.00 dollars I would give it to her to leave.
Why, because I don't think any woman should be in a relationship they feel trapped in.
Here's where I'm clueless (by the way that is what she said as well) "He is clueless, I can't wait to be free" She's tells me she's glad she has me, how much she loves me and even want me to take her to Hawaii to renew our vows. (Really! renew our vows) if you are planning on leaving why would you renew your vows.
If being with me leave you miserable by all means break free, She can have the house or whatever.
But for those of you that are saying you want to be free but scared to be on your own, You weren't born into the marriage, so ask yourself if I am on my own, is that going to be harder than this marriage? If your answer is yes by all means, everyone has growing to do in life and the ones that don't grow or the ones that refuse to grow.
I don't advocate divorce, But everyone's accountable for what they give or take in a relationship, Stop blaming... make your decision.

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He's a child
by: Sivvy

MArried 19 years and tried to divorce him 12 years ago but he cried, begged, stopped going to work. I stupidly gave in and agreed to stay. Now we hate each other, have had physical confrontatons, constant emotional abuse, etc Biggest problem is we now have NO MONEY. He stopped working for 3 years, we are about to lose our house, credit is terrible. We are barely surviving on his $10/hr job and my $1500 SSDII, as I am disabled. I cannot live like this but am stuck in this hell because I will not have enough money to live after divorce.I feel trapped. ANY advice would help.

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He never understood the value of married life
by: Still Alive

guys my husband is going to file divorce in this month ..I hate divorce but he needs his family than me, he refused to save our marriage as his parents don't like me.He thinks he can get a second wife but not parents. This is the man I was married with. I have a very hard time now but still I am not dead yet :(

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ugh
by: Anonymous

After 8 years I saw the light, now in the midst of this divorce he is making it out like our children are a big part of his life. The kids even explain that he is asleep most of the time they visit him. Asleep or watching TV. And he is making me out to be the bad guy because when he calles and asks the kids to pack their clothes (doesn't notify me he is taking them over night) then complains to his atty that the clothes are wadded up in their backpacks and upkept, to where he can't use them.

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Hidden Depression
by: Tracy (IL)

I started seeing a therapist for myself to better understand what I was going through, my emotions are everywhere and I feel like an eggshell or a jigsaw puzzle most of the time. I am reading Undoing Depression by Richard O'Connor and this book is reading exactly like the past 13 years of my marriage. I think I am ready to make the move and start the divorce process now.

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should I leave him???
by: Anonymous

Omg...I can't believe there are women who are going through the same things I am..I have been married to my husband for 15 years..he has never been able to provide and I suspect has had a girlfriend for years..I just can't catch him..he says he loves me..but won't help around the house..I think all he wants is for me to have his children..we have 4 now and he wants to have more..I don't know if i should leave him...or if we have another child maybe that will bring him around..I love him..just not sure if he is the man for me.

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childish
by: Angel

We all have different problems in our life, obstacles in our way, but when it comes to our family, it's very difficult to tackle and confront the problem. I suggest if you have time to share this to yourspiritualgrowthcenter.com is here for you

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very similar issues here.
by: KL

We were married almost 17 years before I told him to leave and wanted a divorce. I, too, have done everything regarding finances, children, etc.
It took two months before he actually left and now says that he did so because "you told me to leave." His television is his god and his mother is more important than me.

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He sounds like my husband
by: Anonymous

There has been a lack of communication and trust in our marriage. He doesn’t respect me, walks over me, and doesn’t help with the kids or their homework. There’s a lot of stuff that he doesn’t do and I am getting tired of doing everything by myself. So I know how you feel.

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