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Divorce Settlement Negotiation Strategies
When considering how to split everything up, these
divorce settlement negotiation strategies and considerations can
help you get the most fair and equitable outcome from your divorce.
When Facing Separation or Divorce, Be Prepared to Negotiate
Maintaining your financial security remains one of the toughest challenges
you are likely to encounter when facing separation and divorce. Because most
states require that assets be split equitably, not equally, the unfortunate
reality is that many divorced women usually end up losing economically. And if
you have dependent children, the quality of life for you and your children could
be severely compromised.
It is important that prior to your separation and divorce proceedings you,
your spouse, your attorneys and financial consultants get together and negotiate
the best possible agreement. Following are a few issues to consider.
Resolve how college tuition will be paid
Both parents' contributions to
college expenses will need to be addressed in the divorce agreement. Be cautious
about using your retirement assets as a source of education funding as these
assets could take a very long time to replace. College costs can be met through
a patchwork arrangement of low-interest loans, financial aid and part-time
student jobs. Unfortunately, most women will have fewer financial resources in
retirement than their children will have in college. If you already have a 529 Savings Plan, check out College 529 Plans in Divorce to find out what your options are.
Reevaluate your retirement plan
You may be unaware of the phased increase in
normal Social Security retirement age from 65 to 67. In other words, don't
expect to be eligible for full benefits earlier than you actually will.
Hopefully, your Social Security will be supplementary income, not a major source
of retirement wealth.
To significantly complement your retirement savings, you may need to rely on
an investment portfolio. While some investments may involve your assuming
greater risks than others (i.e., investing in stocks versus Treasury bonds),
they may be more likely to produce higher returns, particularly if you are years
away from retirement.
Negotiate the best health insurance coverage for you and your children
If
one parent has access to health insurance at a reasonable cost, most states have
laws permitting or requiring the court to order that parent to keep the children
on the plan. Children are typically covered until they reach age 18. If health
insurance becomes an expense, it should be factored into the child support
award.
Take note that under COBRA (the Consolidated Omnibus Budget Reconciliation
Act of 1986), if a spouse's employer has 20 employees or more, the spouse's
employer must allow the other spouse to have a policy with its health insurer
for three years after the divorce.
Calculate the long-term costs of keeping the house
Keeping the house may
make sense if you are hoping to maintain custody of your children and preserve
some continuity in their lives. It is also a very valuable asset. But a home is
an illiquid asset that can be very expensive to maintain in the long term. A
mortgage, taxes, utilities, maintenance and general day-to-day upkeep add up.
Down the road, will you still be able to maintain the house once the marriage is
dissolved? Make sure you run the numbers ahead of time-and determine your
ability to acquire a new residence-before you stake your claim and fight to keep
your home.
Keep in mind that any reduction in your standard of living during this
transition period may be used as grounds for providing less support in the
future. Tuition, extracurricular costs, childcare, health care, recreation,
transportation, housing and food should all be accounted for as part of your
expense package. Therefore, when negotiating the terms of your separation
agreement, think carefully about the priorities you set and the decisions you
make, as these choices will most likely serve as the basis for your final
divorce decree.
submitted January 2006 by
John Mikhael, Financial Consultant with Smith Barney (Smith Barney does not give tax or legal advice. Consult your personal tax and
legal advisors for such guidance).
In addition to these divorce settlement negotiating strategies, here are some more articles that discuss other divorce
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