Who Are We Really Married To

by Rose
(Canada)

My husband was on all these dating sites and was e-mailing girlfriends he had like 25 years ago. It was all hidden and when asked he just lied about everything.

He was a liar and a cheat. The trust was gone and I never viewed him as the man I once loved and married.

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I've suffered enough!
by: Anonymous

After twenty five years of betrayal and deceit, I've had enough.

My husband has done it all; stayed out all night three times in the early years of our marriage. After a brief separation he lied to the marriage counselor stating he was working "undercover" (he was a police officer). The therapist believed him but I knew better. He actually tried to seduce a friend of mine who was upset over a break-up with his close friend. They had been drinking and she immediately called to confess the kiss he had given her. Later he tried with another friend via email to "visit" her, of course without my knowledge. After our two sons were born there was some relative calm, but by the time they were teenagers he was back at it and had an affair with a coworker. Around the same time he registered on match.com as "single with no children". He promised to stop… fast forward five years and he was frequenting similar sites like zoosk and Cupid claiming he just liked to look. Now he's on at least five dating sites while I'm at work I just found out. He also maintains contact with about six or seven single female "friends"

Unfortunately, he has a degenerative movement disorder and a history of prostate and bladder cancer. Despite his illnesses he continues to disrespect and betray me. I feel no choice but to seek divorce. I have suffered enough.
I’m in the Same Position
by: Anonymous

I am coming up on my 3rd wedding anniversary, and I know when we got married he loved me. But 4 months after we were married he cheated on me, got her pregnant and now has a child. She was born 5 days after our wedding anniversary. I originally forgave him for that, but now he doesn’t come home at night, he hides everything from me, from money to phone numbers, to mail. It’s like he doesn’t want me to know what’s going on in his life. We took a vow to death do us part, but I know deep in my heart he is cheating. I am in the process of saving up as much money as I can to leave him. He just doesn’t know it yet.
The truth comes out after you're married
by: Anonymous

My husband told me a week after we got married that he had a two month old baby. I'm confused, but we’re still together!
I feel the same
by: Anonymous

I FEEL THE SAME WAY!!!!
I feel like he is a "stranger" and that I NEVER knew him at all...
Isn't that just sad..??

It’s sad for him, because I am a good normal human-being/ person.
I pity him for not being the same…
He has no morals and ethics.
And having a marriage with someone, while you are living two separate lives?

We are with you girl!! :)
Stay Strong!!!!

YOU are the BETTER PERSON :)
Who Are We Really Married To
by: Anonymous

To who are we really married? This is an excellent question. I am in the process of divorcing a husband of 30 years, and sometimes I ask myself who this man is. Although he did not cheat on me in a romantic way, he cheated me financially. In addition, he disrespected me as a human being by controlling every aspect of my environment, including the heat, electricity, and even the garbage.

Truthfully, I wouldn't care if he became involved with another woman. This would be a gain for me and a loss for the other woman. However, I would like to believe that any woman who would want him would have to have her brain and her eyes checked. She might also want to monitor her bank account.

Good riddance to these "men." I use the term loosely, because I think they are both cowards and bullies.

I wish you luck on your journey.

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