Untruths and lies for years
by Nanci H.
He has been keeping things from me (tax issues, house liens, and an affair). He has a son with another woman, whom he never married. He never wanted anything to do with his son. He also has a daughter that he didn’t know about, and both kids are less than a year apart. He had to pay child support on both kids throughout our marriage ($2000 a month, which took away from our son age 10). Now he has falsified and signed the tax refund for the child support debt. I had to file as an innocent spouse for a debt because it was before our marriage.
He travels for his job and has not been truthful about where he goes. I found out through statements of expense accounts which came in the while he was away. Plus, he had an affair complete with sex pictures of himself (I have that photo). This was going on for a year.
Our whole marriage has all been lies, lies, and more lies. He has not slept in the same bed or made love to me in 3 years. He has denied intimate sex for years now, and would say "you need to be to me like daggling a carrot in my face”.
It just goes on and on and I’m scared. I’m angry and sad. I’m broken and depressed, but I will no longer trust him or others thanks to him. I find myself checking every 5 minutes to see if there is a pulse, but it’s dead.
I need to walk away now. My poor son has seen the emotional toll it’s taking on me, but he loves his Daddy and wants to be with him. His father travels all over the state and is always away. Even when he is home, he’s always working or talking, not making time like decent fathers do.