All Around Incompatibility
(Denver, CO USA)
My husband has always been very controlling and a bully. I did not know myself at all when we first started seeing one another. I had just moved from my home state and did not want to date anyone. My brother (another controlling bully) felt he knew better and, since I had to live with him and my sister-in-law when I moved, I could not get away from his constant nagging for me to date.
I knew shortly after we married that it had been a mistake. I was financially solvent when I met my soon-to-be ex and he had debt. Shortly after we married he kept pestering me to get a credit card and put him on it "for emergencies". Well soon thereafter I found out he charged over $70,000 and we had to declare bankruptcy. He was constantly promising me everything under the sun and would never follow through on any of his promises. He eventually had to sell my diamond engagement ring (valued at $1800 or more) for just over $100 to pay some bill--yet another thing he said he would never do.
Eventually I just grew up and grew tired of the empty promises and empty, lonely life of being completely alone all of the time and wanted to have some type of life and happiness while I could still enjoy it. I also had a health scare shortly after turning 40 and it woke me up BIG TIME!!!! I am scared but I long to see what I can achieve too.