Temporary Child CustodyHaving temporary child custody orders in effect before your divorce is finalized can prevent a lot of headaches. Not only can it help avoid misunderstandings with the other parent, it can also give you some recourse if the other parent doesn't comply with an agreed upon custody arrangement. A temporary child custody order can be established as part of the divorce petition, a restraining order (if your state allows it), or as a totally separate court order. Like the name implies, temporary child custody is not a permanent custody determination. Final custody is determined in either the divorce proceedings or during a custody trial. The following questions illustrate the importance of having temporary child custody orders in place when the parents are no longer living together:
Do you need an attorney to file for temporary child custody? Rhonda's Question: Do you have to have an attorney to file for temporary child custody? Brette's Answer: No. Can temporary custody be established outside of the court? Valery's Question: I am a grandmother of a 7year old boy. My daughter has and willing to allow me to have temp custody. Can this be done outside of the court? Brette's Answer: No. You need to go to court and have a court order issued. What is the process to get temporary child custody? Tricia's Question: What is the process for getting temporary child custody? How is it filed? Can we get it in the same day? Also, what can I do if my husband has taken all the money? Brette's Answer: Go to family court and file a petition and a motion for temporary custody. Depending on your state laws and local court schedule, it can be possible to get a temporary order the same day. If he has taken all the money, you can file a petition and a motion for emergency spousal support. Good luck. How long is it from the temporary custody hearing to the final hearing? Jo's Question: How long is it typically from a temporary custody hearing to a final hearing? My husband just filed for divorce 2 months ago. Brette's Answer: It really varies depending on the court calendar in your area. Call and ask the court clerk for an estimate. How can a temporary custody order be changed? Darnetta's Question: I agreed to let the father get temporary custody of our son but we didn't go to court. He got the custody papers from a lawyer and we went to get it notarized, but I did not receive a copy of the document. I was wondering what actions can I take to get my son back, and how long can he have custody? Brette's Answer: File a petition in family court for a modification in custody. If the father will not agree, you will have a trial and the judge will make a decision based on what is in the best interest of your child. The temporary custody is in effect as long as the papers specified. If they did not specify, then it is indefinite. Good luck. » Return to top Can temporary custody be changed if the DCFS charges are dropped? Bianca's Question: Can my ex get full custody of my one month son if they called Department of Children and Family Services on me? The charges were dropped and they have my son at the moment and refuse to give him back until we go to court. Brette's Answer: You need to get the temporary custody order changed. If your court date is soon, you can do it then. If it is not, file an emergency petition for modification. Help, the judge awarded temporary custody to him. Melissa's Question: I am separated from my husband of 11 years. I have been a stay at home mom and the sole care-giver for our children, while he was the financial provider and that is all he contributed to the family. I began seeing someone new and he moved into my home a month ago. I recently found out that my husband was reported to DHS for neglect, and told him I was going to request temporary custody because I was concerned for my children. He filed for custody before I ever got a chance. We went to court yesterday and I lost because I have a live in boyfriend. My side was never even heard. I've never went more then 48 hours without seeing my babies and now I only get to be a mommy 4 days a month. Any advice would be helpful. Brette's Answer: It sounds like you had a temporary hearing which is short. You need to go to trial on this and have time to prove that it is in your children's best interest to live with you. Since you have a longer parenting history, that will help. Your attorney needs to get the DHS reports admitted into evidence. If you think the boyfriend is a problem, get him out. You need to work with your attorney to turn this around. Can I appeal a temporary custody order? Question: If the judge orders temporary custody, can you appeal the order? Brette's Answer: You can appeal temporary orders, but often it makes little sense to, since by the time the appeal on the temporary order is heard, a permanent ruling will have been made. You always have the right to appeal and if you think you might want to pursue it, you need to file the appropriate paperwork quickly since there is often a small window in which you can file to protect your rights. » Return to top Topic: Temporary Child Custody Question: I have been married for 18 years, and am no longer in love with my husband. We've tried counseling and its not helping our marriage. We have three children (15,12,9). I've told him that I want out but he says that he is going to keep the children and that I can only see them. I've told him that I want 50/50 custody but he wont discuss it when it comes up. Can he keep the children from me before the divorce process has been finalized? Brette's Answer: If there is no court order, you and your spouse have equal rights to your children and he cannot keep them from you. If you are concerned, you can go to family court and get an order of custody and visitation before your divorce which will determine the issue of custody. » Return to top Topic: Custody during a separation Jessica's Question: My husband are separated, and there are no court orders in effect. He has told me many times that he is going to take off with our son. Do I have to let him see our 6 month old? I told him that he could come here to see him, but he will not go for that. I am worried that he will take off with him and not let me see our baby. Brette's Answer: It sounds like you need to head to family court and get an order of custody ASAP. Right now, you both have equal rights to your child. He could take your son and until you get a court order, there would not be much you could do. Go to court and ask for a temporary order immediately. If he contests it, you'll need to have a trial to decide the custody issue. Consulting with an attorney would be a good idea. » Return to top Topic: Preventing Parental Kidnapping Erika's Question: My ex and I are splitting up and he has threatened to take our son and flee if I leave him. What can I do to prevent this. I would like to share custody with my ex, but not if he is going to kidnap our son. Brette's Answer: You need to get an emergency temporary order of custody. If he has threatened to kidnap your child, you need to let the court know this is a concern. If your son has a passport, you need to get it and move it someplace your ex cannot access, such as a safe deposit box. Instruct your child's school or day care providers not to release him to anyone but you. You need to talk to an attorney ASAP. Topic: Interference with Custody and Visitation Pam's Question: My ex. has visitation on the week-ends. It has been 11 days since I've seen or heard from my kids, he won't answer the phone or door. We are currently waiting for a ruling on full custody and child support. I'm afraid he will kidnap the kids because I know he knows he won't get custody. I called my lawyer and he said to file for contempt of court which I did. But I'm going crazy and no one seems to care can you help me, what can I do? Brette's Answer: I am concerned that your attorney does not seem to be taking this seriously. He should file an emergency motion with the court. If you have a temporary order of custody that specifically details who should have the kids when, you can contact the police if he is in direct violation of that order if you believe the children are in danger or have been kidnapped. I would suggest you have a serious conversation with your attorney and demand that he take action immediately or you will find another attorney and file a grievance against him with your state ethics committee. I hope this works out for you. » Return to top How can he claim that he has temporary child custody? Tasha's Question: My ex and I have been separated for 7 months. Four months ago, he said that he can no longer pay support. I took the children to his house because I can't pay for child care. After one week he went to the courts to file an order for temporary child custody. There isn't anything signed by a judge and it has not be granted yet. He will not let me speak to the children when I call. I can not afford an attorney right now. What are your suggestions for me? Brette's Answer: It is possible a judge granted him custody of the children, since they had been with him for so long. If a permanent order has been granted to him without any notice to you, you can have it overturned. Go to your family court and ask to see any papers that have to do with you so you can determine what is going on. You might also find out if there is a free legal services agency in your area that can help you with this. If he doesn't pay child support, you need to contact the state child support enforcement office and tell them and ask for it to be enforced. If you are having financial difficulties, you should also talk to your state social services department and ask for assistance. Good luck. » Return to top When does he have to return her after I get temporary custody? Holly's Question: I was granted temporary custody of my child, but her father has her in another state. How long does he have to return her to me? Brette's Answer: It should be immediate. Good luck. How long are temporary custody orders valid? Trina's Question: How long is a temporary custody agreement valid? My fiancé has temporary custody of his son, but the ex is threatening all of us. Since the temporary order is almost two years old, I was wondering if it has an expiration date. Brette's Answer: A temporary order usually states on it how long it is valid for, which is usually until the next court appearance. If you are not currently in the middle of a court case, I doubt it is a temporary order and it is mostly likely a permanent order. You may have had a temporary order that was made final at the last court date. » Return to top Can I get a passport for my kids without their father's consent? Christina's Question: I was awarded temporary custody of my son until our next court date. Can I get a passport for him without his fathers consent? I may be traveling soon, my lawyer isn't sure if the laws have changed. Can you let me know if their is a web address I can read about my rights with temporary custody? Brette's Answer: Generally, you need permission of the court to leave the country during a custody case. As for obtaining a passport, you can check the regulations on the US Department of State web site. Can I get temporary custody of my grandchild? Pat's Question: My 19 year old daughter just had a baby, and neither she or the baby's father have no job. They are both too immature to raise our granddaughter and I fear for her. What steps can we take to get temporary custody? Brette's Answer: Immaturity is not grounds for a grandparent to take custody, unless you can offer specific instances of mistreatment. It sounds like the best thing you can do is be supportive and be a resource for her to turn to. There are many women younger than 19 who successfully raise children. Offer to provide child care so she can look for a job. You should also recall how hard it it to pull yourself together after having a baby. Maybe she is even depressed. Offer encouragement. If you feel the child is in danger take action, however keep in mind that the best way to help her is to support her. Good luck. Can we get temporary custody of our grandchild if our daughter agrees? Candice's Question: My daughter is unable at this time to care for her 4 1/2 year old daughter. She is unstable and for the sake of our granddaughter, it is best to live with us. We want to fill out papers to have temporary custody. The father is not listed on the birth certificate. How do we make this legal? Brette's Answer: You can go to court and file papers. If your daughter is in agreement, it will be a very simple matter. If the father is not listed and is "unknown" he needn't be notified. Can I get custody if my grandchild was taken from her parents home? Teri's Question: How do I get temporary custody of my grandchild when custody has been taken away from her parents due to allegations of abuse. The abuse is not factual or actual. She was born premature and has developed some bone fractures. There is no physical evidence of bruising or shaken baby. She had a calcium deficiency in the hospital and is even being tested for OI (brittle bone disease). I just want to know how I can get to see her in the hospital or get temporary custody. Brette's Answer: You need to contact the social services caseworker and ask that she be placed with you. If she has been taken from her parents, she is in the custody of the state. Should I get full custody if I have temporary custody of my grandchild? Laura's Question: My daughter had a little girl 4 months ago, and the baby has been with my husband and I ever since in order to keep the baby in a safe environment. My daughter has ADDHD, MANIC, and she is BI-POLAR will not stay on her meds. She already has another little boy, and now the other grandparents have custody of the boy. She has agreed to give me Temporary custody. Will I be able to get full custody? Brette's Answer: I think you should consider an adoption. You'll need her consent, but it's the best way to get this resolved permanently. » Return to top of Temporary Child Custody © WomansDivorce.com. All rights reserved.
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No-Fight Divorce, and
How To Parent With Your Ex.
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