Reclaim Your Space After DivorceOne of the best things to do after divorce is to reclaim your space so it reflects your new life and honors what is important to you. Do you really want your surroundings to feel like a museum, show-casing everything from your previous life with your husband. Probably not! So, why don't you get started redefining your space to embrace the new you. The article below can help you get started in one of the rooms you spend the most time in, your bedroom. You can't move on if you are still sleeping in 'his' bedroom. It's time to redecorate! If your bedroom still looks like the room you shared with your ex you may be damaging your self image as a woman, preventing new love from entering your life, and missing an opportunity to embrace your new, wonderful life! For many woman, divorce make us question our worth and our femininity. We think ‘I wasn’t enough.' If you look around your room and you still see that old relationship, those thoughts and patterns will continue to haunt you. It’s time to purge the old and bring in the new, so you can see yourself as the woman you are - beautiful and deserving. It's time to reclaim your space Think about it! You finally have a room of your own! No more of his dirty socks and sports posters. No more big screen TV. No more picture of his mother. Now is your chance to create a warm, beautiful bedroom, just the way you want it! You can take one of two approaches to redecorating your bedroom. If right now you have completely sworn off intimacy and can’t ever imagine letting another person into your bedroom, then create a wonderful, feminine space. When my husband moved out I created a very pink, fluffy room, basically a man-repellant! I loved it, knowing that he had no say whatsoever in my choices. I even got myself a twin sized bed - room for ONE, thank you very much! Over time these feelings tend to retreat and you start to open up to the possibility of romance again. If you are at this stage, then create a warm, romantic space that makes you feel passionate and womanly, in colors that make you look beautiful. After I moved on from repelling all men, I redid my room in a deep, rich grey with fresh white French country accents. Still very feminine and ‘mine’, but inviting in case I wanted to bring romance back into my home. I also went back to a queen sized bed, built for two. Of course, the cat and I have no problem taking up all that room ourselves most nights - it’s still MY domain. Getting Inspired Redecorating can be overwhelming, especially as you face objects that hold so many memories. Start by flipping through home magazines and find pictures of rooms you love. Use that to determine your new look and colors. Then invite over a couple of girlfriends, pour a glass of wine, and pack up the old stuff. You shared that comforter, chose that painting out together, and those lamps were from his mother. You can donate lots of it to Goodwill, and even buy new things second hand if you’re on a budget. My room needed 16 hours of time, but only $600 in new stuff! And of course, paint is cheap! Once the room is cleared, create your new room, then lay back, and enjoy your new life! Not everyone gets a second chance to have it just the way they want! Return to top of Reclaim Your Space After Divorce Article by Rebecca West. The following articles offer more tips and inspiration as you begin to rebuild your life and reclaim your space after divorce: Starting Over Divorce Process /
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