Porn and Impotency

He was addicted to pornography and couldn't perform in bed.

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My dream come true turned into a nightmare
by: Anonymous

I was in the middle of my divorce when I met my now-husband. I was hurt and broke and could not believe my luck to find this handsome, polite, warm man! It was like a dream come true! Little did I know! We got married just 4 month after my divorce and life started to change. We moved in together and I agreed with pay the rent as long as he has to pay child support for his son from a previous marriage, even though he earned more than I did.

First, things changed slowly but there were red flags I chose to ignore. He always wanted sex and since things were still good, I enjoyed it too. Then one day, he ask me if I would like to see how my hair would look like if it would be blond instead of my natural brown. Next thing; he wanted me to shave my privates. Sex was pretty much what and when he wanted it - I was just an object. He wanted me to be like the girls in the porn. One day I left for work but forgot something at home and returned. I was shocked to find him home instead at work, watching porn in the middle of the morning, drinking beer!

Things went south from there. He started to accuse me of having an inappropriate relationship with his High School friend, a man I found totally disgusting. From there, he accused me having affairs with the neighbors, at work and whomever he could think of. I was faithful and it hurt so much being accused of cheating. I became so insecure, I stopped being polite to the checkout clerk at the store, at the post office and even with friends (we don't have any friends any longer).

Ten years fast forward; he has not earned a paycheck in over 5 years. He did enough for me marrying me. That's what he told me. We have not had sex in 3 years (thank God), he lives in the guesthouse and continues to drink and watch porn. Ever since I started to rebel against his tyranny, I got dismissed. Guess I stopped feeding his narcissist traits. Life with this man is pure hell and I hope one of these days I will have enough money to turn my back on him. Sometimes I even feel sorry for him. What a dark soul he must have.

In the meantime, I try to provide a normal life for your two kids, the suns of my life and soul. He does not even care about them! In 9 years, he has never taken them to McDonalds. No family trips, no school events, no nothing! Despite the lack of fatherly guidance (or maybe just because of it), the kids are going great in school, are well adjusted and really fun to have them around. My ass husband does not see what he's missing.

I cut him pretty much off money, but he now just sells his stuff at the pawn shop to get money for beer. I have never met a bigger narcissist then he is. The verbal abuse has pretty much stopped since I told him if he's yelling at me again, I will have him removed by the cops. Guess that scared him. He knows exactly where the line is, that's how manipulative the jerk is. Well; one day he will get what he deserves and I get my divorce!

I wonder how blind I really was
by: Anonymous

My husband had a terrible temper and would cuss and call me names. He also would throw things at the walls. He did have a major porn addiction to the point that it was sick. He didn’t feel he had sex unless I would give him a blow job. He never gave me any respect and would flirt with women in front of me. He hated my son to the point he didn’t want me to ever see him. I couldn’t and wouldn’t do that. He is my only child.

He would watch porn on internet up to 12 hours a day. He talked to other women on internet, cell phone and regular land line phone. He admitted to having 3-5 girlfriends. Money must have been a problem because once he got it, I was told to leave. We were married 17 years in June. I drove a 20 year old Buick when he had 1 motorcycle, 2 trucks (one a new one), 2 trailers, 2 sheds, and a 2 1/2 car garage with all his things in it. I was not to use it. Infidelity at the end but I wonder how blind I really was.

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