by Dr. Reena Sommer
I know you will find my Parenting Plan Template to be an invaluable tool in helping you make decisions about how you will parent your children now that you are divorcing.
And if you find yourself caught in the middle of a nasty custody battle, this parenting plan template may be just what you need to bring it to a halt...
I developed this parenting plan template based on over 200 custody evaluations I have conducted during the past five years. One of the things I consistently observed was that parents did not have a clue about how to make REALISTIC long term plans for their children.
This parenting plan template will get you started.
This template will guide you in developing and creating your own individualized parenting plan. Because no two families are alike, there is no one parenting plan that will identify and address the needs for all families. This template will serve as a directive to assist you in creating your own individualized parenting plan.
One of the most important features of an effective parenting plan is that it must be understood by any adult reading it. This plan should educate and familiarize any reader about your family situation. Although the main purpose of this document is to motivate a settlement between you and your ex-spouse (who of course does not need to be educated about your family), it should be kept in mind that a judge may also be reading it. So when developing your parenting plan, keep in mind the different people and audiences that may be involved.
Here is your opportunity to provide a brief history of your family (1-2 pages). Introduce yourself, your ex-spouse and your children. Focus on the following issues:
Here is your opportunity to talk about the things that are important to you regarding the future care/parenting of your children. Make sure that it is focused on the children’s needs and your ability to meet those needs. As indicated previously, keep in mind the court’s preference for joint custody and ensuring that children maintain relationships with both parents. You may also want to talk about discipline and how your children’s needs will change across time. This is your opportunity to describe your hopes and dreams for your children. A page or two at the most should do it.
Here is where you can talk about the "nuts & bolts" of your parenting plan. This is where you lay out the logistics of how you will meet your children’s needs. Keep in mind that if you want to be successful in motivating a settlement, you will need to provide more than one option for parenting your children. I would suggest that you provide 3 basic option plans which in the end can be considered alone or together. If you do it this way, you will demonstrate your ability to be flexible, your concern for your children and your willingness to go beyond "black and white" thinking ("it’s my way or the high way" thinking). Using a visual calendar works best in laying out the parenting schedules. These will condense what would otherwise take several pages to explain. You should limit yourself to one pay per schedule option.
Here is where you can add some emotional commentary about your children, their needs and the importance of developing a plan that will pave the way for their future. This can be done in a paragraph or two.
Your entire document should not exceed 10 pages.
Copyright by Dr. Reena Sommer, Author of "Developing an Effective Parenting Plan" and other great divorce books. You can find out more about Dr. Sommer at http://www.drreenasommer.com