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Using A Parenting Plan Calendar
Using a parenting plan calendar can help divorced parents keep
track of not only visitation schedules, but the day-to-day routines
of their children.
Even if you get along well with your ex,
it's easy to forget to inform them about schedule changes, sports
practices, and the like.
Using an online co-parenting calendar to track scheduling helps keep everyone up to date and aware of what is
going on, as outlined in the following article.
Whose Day Is It Today???
Keeping track of children’s residential schedules is often a source of
conflict between separated parents. So too is communicating simple things such
as doctor’s appointments, parent-teachers meetings and the like. Changes to
children’s residential schedules and missed appointments often serve as a
flash point particularly with separated parents who hold resentment between each
other. As the anger for miss-communications on these matters escalates, the
children then become the emissaries and messengers between their parents as they
are positioned to deliver messages back and forth. The children’s anxiety
raises proportionate to the temper and anger of the parents. Their ability to
concentrate on tasks such as schoolwork is compromised as their concern turns to
their parents’ distress.
Enter the Internet. Several websites have emerged offering the new millennium
approach to help parents keep track of schedules and to facilitate their
communication. For a reasonable fee, parents can subscribe to a parenting plan
calendar service that
stores the residential schedule, keeps track of appointments and expenses and
will even send out email reminders of their children’s events.
The best of these programs can even help parents establish their schedule and
help parents project out through the years to see when, according to their
schedule, other events such as holidays or birthdays occur. The advantage for
many is that it helps them plan well in advance and keeps them on track along
the way. As parents are kept on track, there are naturally a few less issues to
fight about.
Some of these programs offer a slew of different functions including file
sharing, picture swapping, expense tracking, contact lists, reminders and more.
However, parents are advised to consider their real needs as the more a service
offers, the more overwhelming the program can be. For most users, scheduling,
appointment reminders, mutual communication and perhaps expense tracking is all
they really require. Further, some programs require a fee before service while
others allow a free trial period. The benefit of the free trial period is that
it allows the user to get familiar with the program before purchase. Those
programs that only offer an example can be made to appear far easier to use than
may be the case.
These programs can be a real service to just about any separated parents.
However, they likely are of even greater use with separated parents prone to
conflict. As well as providing all of the above-mentioned features, it helps
keeps distance between parents who if communicating directly, may see their own
behavior degenerate. Further, the service provides for accountability because
neither parent can claim not being told about an event if it has been entered
into the program. An electronic record dates entries and events and provides a
detailed history if ever these items fall to dispute.
Having trouble keeping track of your children’s residential schedule? Then
let an Internet based parenting plan calendar lend a hand.
Article by Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW, an expert on child
development, parent-child relations, marital and family therapy,
custody and access recommendations, social work and an expert for
the purpose of giving a critique on a Section 112 (social work)
report. His opinion helps resolve child custody and access matters
in Ontario, Canada. You can access Gary's site at www.yoursocialworker.com
Using a parenting plan calendar can also help you to
keep track of relevant information and the activities of the other
parent if you are preparing for
a child custody battle. As you move on after your divorce,
the articles below can help you with the various visitation issues
that may come up: