The Marital Home and Divorce - Answers From The ExpertThe following questions and answers concerning the marital home and divorce can help you understand some of the issues that need to be considered when dividing one of the biggest assets of the marital estate. You'll find information on determining who gets the house, the importance and implications of a quit claim deed, how the equity can be divided, and mortgage issues you need to be aware of.
Will it hurt my case if I move out before filing for a divorce? Sally's Question: If I move out before divorce, will it hurt me when filling for divorce? Brette's Answer: I recommend you talk to an attorney before doing anything. In some jurisdictions and situations moving out can be detrimental to your case. Can I force my husband to leave? Linda's Question: I am going thru an ugly divorce. The marital house is in both our names. Neither of us want to leave the home. Can I force my husband to leave? Brette's Answer: You can go to court and get an order of temporary exclusive occupancy. Courts recognize it is unhealthy for people in high conflict to remain in the same home. Good luck. Can I make him move out of MY house before divorce? Linda's Question: We signed a pre-nuptial agreement before we were married and now we are talking divorce. I want him to leave my house and he says he has rights to stay in the house till we get a divorce. Is this true? Brette's Answer: If it is a home you owned before marriage and is in your name alone, you are within your rights to ask him to leave. If the home is jointly owned, then you can't force him to leave since he is an owner as well. If you want him to leave and he won't, you need to go to court to get sole temporary residence of the home while the divorce is pending. Once you file for divorce your attorney can make a motion for exclusive occupancy of the home, forcing him to leave. Best of luck with this. » Return to top Topic: Can I stay in the house during the divorce? Jamie's Question: I am living in husband's house. How long can I stay here once the divorce gets started? Brette's Answer: There's no set answer to this question. Technically I guess you can stay until he throws you out. It really depends on what else is happening. If the home is in his name and was purchased before the marriage, you may still be entitled to some of the equity if you helped keep it up or made the mortgage payments. You could also be given the right to live there by the court for a period of time. You should talk to an attorney. Can he keep coming back to take things from the house? Amy's Question: If the wife is living in the house during the divorce, is it legal for the husband to enter and take things when the wife not at home and no knowledge of him entering? He was caught on security cameras trying to get into the cars in the driveway and then later that afternoon going into the house while no one is home. Why is there nothing the police will do even though property in the house is now missing? Brette's Answer: Unless you have a court order giving you exclusive occupancy of the home, he is permitted to enter it if it is joint marital property. Write down what's missing and present the list to the judge. » Return to top Can he lock me out of the house because I left? Sonya's Question: My husband refused to let me and my two children stay in our home. He just locked us out. The home is in both our names. Can he take it away from me because I left? Brette's Answer: You need to get an attorney. He cannot keep you out of your own home without a court order. What if he threatens to press charges if I enter the house? Julie's Question: My husband and I are going through a divorce. He refuses to move out of the house and has constantly put off the four way meeting. We have two pre-teen children, neither want to live with him as he is verbally abusive (one of many reasons I have left him). He has told the children that if I come back to the house he will press charges and he is now fighting for custody. I need to get back into the house, what can I do? Brette's Answer: Have your lawyer call his lawyer and arrange a time for you to get in when he is not home or with an impartial observer. I also recommend you talk with your attorney about whether you should move out or not, since it could impact your chances at custody. Good luck Can I evict him from the house so I can sell it? Mirium's Question: I own "a marital property" in my name and my sister. My husband has not been living in the property for many years and lives out of the country. He had been paying the mortgage, but stopped making the mortgage payments when I filed for divorce. He has been using the property as a storage facility for his things (he's a hoarder). We are now in foreclosure and I have the chance to sell the property. Due to him using the house as a storage facility, it is impossible for me to show the property to prospective buyers. I want to be able to sell the house before April 2010 which is the deadline the bank gave me to sell the house. Can I evict my husband under these circumstances? Brette's Answer: You can't evict him since it is marital property. You need an order giving you exclusive occupancy. You wouldn't be able to sell anyhow since it is an asset of the marriage - unless you can get court permission to do so. If you present the situation to the court, and indicate that proceeds of the sale will be held in a separate account pending division by the court it could happen. » Return to top Can I make him leave if the house is in my name? Jodi's Question: I purchase my home before we were married, and have re-financed since, but the loan and the property are still strictly in my name. Is this considered marital property, and if so how will it be divided if I choose to divorce him? Every time he leaves, the police tell him he has the right to come and go or take things as he pleases. Is this true even though the home is not in his name and was purchased before marriage? Brette's Answer: You can get a court order of exclusive occupancy. How the home is divided depends on many factors, including how he participated in paying mortgage payments and doing upkeep and maintenance. You should consult with an attorney. Topic: Can I change the locks after he moves out? Jill's Question: Can I change the locks on my house after my husband moves out, but not yet divorced? Brette's Answer: The rules about this vary from state to state, so you should check with your attorney. You can file for exclusive residency of the home, which will then allow you to change the locks for sure. Can he move back in if I get to keep the house? Lora's Question: If I keep the house but he is still on the mortgage does he have any legal right to move back in if his current living arrangement falls apart? Brette's Answer: No, as long as you are given possession. The divorce should have given exclusive occupancy to you. If it did not, you can amend the judgment to include this. Good luck. Can we just keep the house as joint owners? Karyn's Question: After being married for 21 years, we legally separated and my husband moved to Chicago for a job opportunity. Because of the failing housing market, we both have agreed that we want to hold on to the house. Is this possible? Brette's Answer: Definitely. You can continue to be joint owners. But you should think about what happens should you ever want to sell - how will you split it? What if one wants to sell and the other doesn't? Who gets to live in it or will you rent it? Can we live in the same house if we get a divorce? Josephine's Question: My husband and I can't afford to sell the house because we are currently upside down in our home. And, neither one of us can afford to move out. Will this be a problem should I want to pursue a divorce? Brette's Answer: Other couples have divorced but continued to share the same residence - particularly in this economy where it is often not possible to sell a home that is over-mortgaged and impossible to afford to residences for the family. It may not be a good long term solution, but with today's real estate problems, it can work in the short term. How does a common law marriage affect division of the house? Sandra's Question: I am in a common law relationship and know I want out. The house is in my name, as I bought it 3 yrs before he moved in. He did give me some money to put on the mortgage (not the same amount I put into it 3 yrs earlier) and does help out with what he feels is his share of the bills, including the mortgage. I don't think he should get 50%. I also do not want any of his investments, RRSPs or pension, all I want is my house and my business. What should be his split in the house? And how do I make sure he doesn't come after my business if I am willing to not touch his money? Brette's Answer: You first need to find out if your relationship does constitute a common law marriage in your state. If so, you would proceed with a regular divorce and assets would be divided according to state law. He would be entitled to a portion of the value of the home. You would have a right to ask for a portion of his retirement accounts. If you are not considered married, you have no right to any of his personal accounts. He has no right to ownership in the home, but might have a right to be compensated for the funds he put into it. If you can't resolve this, you should go to mediation because you do not want to end up in small claims court. Who is responsible for the bills until the house sells? Barbara's Question: Our house was placed on the market 2 days after our divorce was final. My ex-remained in the home and will remain until the the house closes in June. Who is responsible for mortgage payments, property taxes and utility bills? Brette's Answer: You need to look at your divorce decree or consult your attorney. If you divorce is final, this has all been decided. » Return to top Can I keep the house if my husband's father purchased it? Nora's Question: My husband's father purchased a home for us to live in and keep our dogs. I am currently living here and my husband's father has told me I need to move out. I desperately need and want to keep the only part of myself left after 18 years of marriage. My dogs need a place to live and I have built myself a nice little business here and do not want to leave. HOW do I keep it? Brette's Answer: If you don't have a lease, then you have a month to month tenancy, which means you can be asked to leave with 1 month notice. You could try to negotiate with your in-laws and offer to pay them fair market rent on the property. You should talk to an attorney who can discuss your situation in depth and consider whether the home was purchased as a gift. » Return to top Am I responsible for repairs if he forced me to move out? Linda's Question: My ex stayed in our home, which we both still own. I was forced to move out and get my own place. We are in divorce proceedings and he wants me to pay 1/2 for home repairs done after I moved out. Am I responsible for any debt/repairs after I was forced out of the matrimonial home? Brette's Answer: You shouldn't pay anything unless ordered to by the court. Is he responsible for repairs even if he doesn't live here? K's Question: My husband moved out of our marital home 10 months ago and filed for a legal separation. He had it fixed in the agreement that I was responsible for selling the house. Well I thought he would help me fix and repair the necessary things that one must do to sale the house but he refuses to help. He says he doesn't have to because he doesn't live there. From a legal standpoint, is he responsible for helping make repairs even if he doesn't live here? Brette's Answer: He's not responsible to do the work, but the cost of the repairs will come out of the proceeds of the house before it is split. Good luck. Would I get anything if my estranged husband rents out our home? Karen's Question: We are still married. If my estranged husband rents out our marital home, am I entitled to some of the rent? Brette's Answer: It depends on how the money is being used. If he's paying the mortgage and there's no cash left after that, you probably wouldn't be. How can I change our temporary house sharing arrangement? Michelle's Question: I am in the middle of my divorce and my husband is currently in school, and wants me to continue paying for the house until he finishes school. The court ordered that I can go back into the marital home, but I would be responsible for the payments. I would also have to vacate the home 3 weekends a month so that he can have access to the children. I can't live like this much longer. I feel I have no personal space, and on those weekends I have to gather all my personal belongings in my car and go rent a room. He eats my food, he know everything I am doing, and he uses my computer. What can I do? Brette's Answer: Your attorney needs to make a motion to have the arrangement changed. If it is not a healthy arrangement, it's not a good idea. » Return to top Who is entitled to the house when we divorce? Renee's Question: We are going through an ugly divorce! We bought a house together one year after we were married, and refinanced it a year later. The mortgage is in my name alone, but the deed and title is in both of our names. Who is entitled to the house? Brette's Answer: The home is marital property, and the mortgage is marital debt. Both will be divided by the court. This could mean one of you stays in the house and the other gets more of the other marital assets, or it could mean you sell the home and both take a portion of the equity. Good luck. » Return to top Can I keep the home and have my ex pay the mortgage? Debbie's Question: I want to be awarded the marital house when my divorce is final, but I don't want to have to refinance it. I have primary physical custody of my kids and feel I should have the house as I am currently living with my parents and only get 400.00 a month child support plus I work. What are my chances? Brette's Answer: You need to see an attorney who can discuss your entire financial situation. It is possible in some cases for one spouse to be responsible for paying the mortgage while the other spouse remains in the home, but in most cases that is not possible. If this is the arrangement you settle on, you need to understand that your credit rating is at risk if he does not pay the mortgage. Can he keep the home just because I moved out? Mary's Question: I have been separated for a year. We have no mortgage on our house, but he's threatening to take it from me. Can he do that?
Brette's Answer: I will tell you what I find myself telling a lot of women. Stop listening to your husband! He's not a legal authority. He doesn't get to decide how your property is divided in your divorce. He's not in control of you. If you are still married, then the house is marital property and belongs to you both, regardless of who is on the deed. Get an attorney and get some advice about your situation and make your decisions based on that. » Return to top How do we handle it if I don't want the house? Amy's Question: My husband and I are getting a divorce and we own a home. I want to give him the house and I want nothing to do with it. Also, we don't want to refinance to take my name off the mortgage. Isn't there is a form I can fill to remove my name off the house and everything? Brette's Answer: You can quit claim your interest to him but I would not recommend you do so until you talk to an attorney. If your name remains on the mortgage, you're going to remain liable for that debt, which is a serious thing. Talk to an attorney before doing anything. Can I give him back the house if it was awarded to me? Joni's Question: My ex and I have been divorced since the first of the year. On the divorce papers it states that I am responsible for the house. I tried to refinance, but I was turned down for a loan. The house is only in his name. Now I want to move and let him have the house. Where should I do? Brette's Answer: You need to get your divorce decree modified to reflect this agreement. Can he get the finalized divorce changed to take back the house? Diane's Question: My husband and I have been divorced for a year and he has yet to pay any child support or medical bills. I'm taking him to court through social services, and now he is threatening me to take me back to court and petition the divorce and take the house away. Can he do this even though our three children live here and its gone through the courts and been a year? Brette's Answer: No. If you were awarded the house, it's yours. Will a hand written note giving me the house hold up in court? Florence's Question: I have a note from my husband written a few years ago that I can have the house. It is not dated. Can it still be used? Brette's Answer: This is not a legal transfer of title in any way. Even if it were, the house is still marital property. » Return to top He wants to transfer the home to me as sole and separate property. LaWanda's Question: My husband has submitted a "Proposed Settlement Agreement" to me which states that he wants to transfer as sole & separate property the home to me. What does this mean? Brette's Answer: If the house was bought during the marriage, it is marital property and has to be divided in the divorce. It sounds like he wants you to take the house. You did not mention the mortgage, which is a debt of the marriage and has to be divided also. I would suggest you have an attorney review the settlement agreement before you sign it. Good luck! Do I have to give him a share if the deed is only in my name? Jan's Question: I owned my home before we got married (11 years ago). Will I be able to keep the home when we get divorced? Brette's Answer: Since the home was your separate property when you married, you will likely continue to own the home. You may need to compensate your ex for any increase in value he helped achieve (remodeling or upkeep) or mortgage payments he helped make. Consult with an attorney who can go over the numbers with you. Can he make me leave if the deed is in his name only? Joni's Question: My husband told me that I have to move out. We own two homes, one is primary and one we rent out because there is no value anymore due to the market. I am not on the deeds to the houses. He is a step father to my disabled son. He makes 88,000 a year, and I only make 12,000. Can he just make me leave? Brette's Answer: No he can't just tell you to leave. The homes are marital property if purchased during marriage regardless of what the deed says. You need to get an order of exclusive residency, as well as spousal support. » Return to top What if the deed is in his name and he paid the mortgage? Katy's Question: When we built our house, my husband did a lot of the work himself or cashed in favors from others therefore he feels he has more rights to the house. He has been making all mortgage payments, while I have been paying all other bills. (We have separate checking accounts.) The house is in his name. We were married when it was built. Do I have any rights to the home if we divorce? Brette's Answer: Yes, the house is marital property and its value must be divided in the divorce. See an attorney. How do I remove his name from the deed and other documents? Mary's Question: I bought the house prior to marriage and added his name to the title many years ago. How do I get his name removed from the title and all other documents that link his name to my home? Brette's Answer: This will be part of your divorce decree. He'll be required to sign a transfer of deed. If he's on the mortgage, you will have to refinance. » Return to top How can I get the deed transferred into my name? Christine's Question: My husband and I are divorcing and have agreed that I will keep the house. We bought it before getting married and the deed is in his name. After re-financing the mortgage is now in both of our names. How can I get the deed transferred into my name? Brette's Answer: The court will need to order this and your husband will sign a quitclaim deed. How do I change the deed if the house was awarded by default? Romona's Question: I have the final judgment. My ex could not be located to sign the Quit Claim deed so judge signed over house to me. I then had it notarized and filed with the County Clerk What is the next step and how do I get the title and deed changed? Brette's Answer: Check with the county clerk to determine what steps are necessary in your jurisdiction. Does the house need to be sold right away? Tamara's Question: I run a business out of my family home. In a divorce, will I have to sell and give him part equity right away? Brette's Answer: It really is going to depend on your overall financial situation. If you want to stay in the home, there are certainly ways to work that out. You could negotiate a certain number of years of residence, or you could take title to the home in exchange for giving him other assets. Get an attorney and get some personal advice based on your situation. » Return to top Topic: Enforcing the sale of the family home Linda's Question: It has been over a year since my husband file for a divorce, and all we do is go to court, but nothing ever gets resolved. I am trying to sell our home, but he refuses to cooperate. The bottom line is that he doesn't want to split his pension money with me, and he is stalling as long as he can. Can I force him to sell the home? Will he be summoned to accept an offer, or can he keep refusing in order to stall? Please advise~ Brette's Answer: Generally, the only way a spouse can be required to sell the home is if the judge orders him to, and even if the court decided the home needed to be sold, the person wouldn't have to accept any offer. You need to talk to your attorney. Pressure him or her to talk to the other attorney and try to settle this. If the pension is the one point of contention, maybe you can work out a deal if there's something you're willing to move on. » Return to top What if he refuses to sign an agreement to sell the house? Deborah's Question: When we divorced 9 years I was granted exclusive use of the home until our son graduated. After that, the home was to be listed for sale and the proceeds divided 50/50. He graduated nearly five years ago. My ex has told me he will not sign to sell. I no longer wish to live here as all children have left home and it is more than I can handle. What steps do I need to take in order to remedy the situation? Brette's Answer: You can file with the court to compel him to sign. What are my rights if he's trying to enforce the sale of the home? Susan's Question: I have been divorced for fourteen years. The divorce papers stated we were to sell our home within 2 years after the divorce. I have lived in the home since then, paying all expenses, taxes, mortgage, home improvements. He now wants to enforce the sale of the home. What are my rights? Brette's Answer: The issue is that he is entitled to his portion of the value of the home, which accrued during marriage. A settlement would be for you to pay him a portion of the value of the marital increase in value. What if I can't sell or refinance within the specified time frame? Kari's Question: In the divorce I was awarded the house, and I was given a certain number of years to either sell, refinance, or give it back to him. I've been turned down twice for refinancing and I tried to give it back, but he didn't want it. The house is up for sale now for the second time and no luck selling yet. It is coming up on the time limit to have the house out of his name. What can I do? Brette's Answer: You can get your judgment modified to reflect the economic climate. » Return to top What if the house isn't selling and he can't afford the mortgage? Question: My fiance and his ex wife have had the marital residence for sale for over a year and a half. He is no longer able to afford both the mortgage payments and rent for our home. He has filled out paperwork to assume the loan, and his ex signed, but what if it's not approved? He was ordered to maintain status quo until the house sold, but after almost 2 years without a sale, he can no longer afford the mortgage. What options do we have? Brette's Answer: He can get the judgment modified so she has to move out and he can get rental income from it - or order her to pay rent. Good luck. » Return to top What if we decide not to sell and I keep the home instead? Ruby's Question: In our divorce agreement, we agreed to sell the house and split the profits. Unfortunately, we haven't been able to sell the house. My ex has agreed to let me keep the house, and in return I am to give him a little cash and forgive some money he owes me. Does my decree have to be changed? My fear is that I give him the money and if I sell the house years later he will get 1/2 of the proceeds since it is recorded that way. Brette's Answer: If you've agreed to something different than the terms of your decree, you do need to submit it to the court and have it made official. Otherwise, he could take you back to court on a violation. Can I stay in the home until the kids are grown without buying him out? Tracy's Question: We have 2 children (one that is mildly retarded) and a house that has the deed in both our names. My daughter receives special services from within our school district. I would like my husband to move out so my daughter does not have to change schools. Please tell me how I can retain the home, and the school for my daughter, and have my husband move out, without having to buy him out (He has refused to do so for years). Brette's Answer: It is common for the residential parent to have the right to live in the marital home until the children are grown. Mediation might be a good solution for you. If you and your husband sit down in a controlled environment and you express your concerns for your daughter and make it clear you are simply trying to make things as good for her as possible and that you are not trying to punish him, he may listen to reason. He also may need to understand how the property settlement will play out. Often people refuse to leave the home because they fear they will lose all of their interest in it by doing so. Another tricky part is that he will remain liable in the eyes of the mortgage company so if you don't pay, he's liable. You can include a clause saying you will indemnify him, but that's often of little help in those situations. » Return to top Can I put the home up for sale without his permission? Rachel's Question: If my husband and I own the house (both making mortgage payments/both on the loans), can I put the house up for sale without his permission? Neither of us can afford to keep it, but he won't even agree to sell it before we can agree on custody. Brette's Answer: The house can't be sold without permission of both parties, or a court order. You should not list the home until a decision has been made. If you get an offer, you can't accept it since he does not agree. Can he sell the house without my knowing about it? Stacy's Question: I believe my husband is going to file for divorce. I am going on a trip to see my parents, and I suspect he might try to sell our house while I am gone. I am not on the mortgage. We have lived in the house married for 10 yrs. Can he sell this house without my knowledge? Brette's Answer: If your name is on the deed, you own the property together and he can't sell it without your permission. You might not realize it, but it takes a long time for a sale on a house to go through - weeks. This isn't something he can do overnight. If the house is in his name only and there is no divorce proceeding started, he can sell the house. » Return to top Can I sell the house without his signature? Nancy's Question: The judge ordered me to put house up for sale. I have a buyer, but can't get in touch with my ex (he changed his phone number and got fired from work). Can I just sell the house and worry about giving him his share if we ever find him? Also, can I sign the paperwork for him? Brette's Answer: You can't sell the house without your spouse's signature on the deed. If you cannot locate your spouse, go back to court. Is a house located in a foreign country subject to division in divorce? Pamela's Question: My parents brought a home back in the 90s in Ecuador. How is that house impacted if they start the divorce process? Or is that something they need to settle themselves? Brette's Answer: The house is part of their marital assets and will be divided in the divorce. Just as if they lived in one state and owned a home in another state. » Return to top Do I have more rights because my father gifted the equity to us? Kelly's Question: My father sold the house to my ex husband and I, and he gifted the equity to us. Do I have more rights to the house where as it was my family home. Brette's Answer: No, not if it was a gift to both of you. Good luck. Can I keep the house if I bought it by myself during the marriage? J's Question: I have been married for over 7 years. I know we are going to end up getting a divorce because he has been unfaithful. I bought the house by myself after we got married. Can I keep the house? Or do I need to give him some money so I can keep the house? Brette's Answer: A home purchased during marriage with marital funds is a marital asset. If separate funds were used, it will depend on who paid the mortgage and did the upkeep whether he is entitled to a portion. I suggest you consult with an attorney. » Return to top Do I have any rights to the house owned by his deceased parents? Jayme's Question: I have been married now for a whopping 5 weeks. I am considering a divorce and currently my 3 children and I live in the house with my husband. This house is not owned by him or I, it is owned by his deceased Father and his Mother. Do I have any rights to the house in the event of a divorce? Brette's Answer: You probably have no interest in the house. It isn't owned by the deceased parents, but by their estate. And that should be distributed to their heirs, one of whom is presumably your husband. Unless the parents left an interest in the house to you, you don't own it and considering you've been married 5 weeks that seems unlikely. Talk to an attorney. What am I entitled to if he had the house before we got married? Donna's Question: We have been married for 24 years, and my husband owned the house prior to our marriage. I was employed part of the marriage, so combined incomes did pay the house payments, and he needed my signature to refinance. When we divorce, will I be entitled to anything from that house? Brette's Answer: There are two possibilities. Either the house has been converted to a marital asset (since you had to help refinance, this is a possibility) or you are entitled to a portion of the increase in equity since you helped pay the mortgage and presumably helped keep up the house. Get an attorney to help you.. » Return to top What if he had the home before we got married and I didn't work? Edwina's Question: My husband purchased our home before we got married. The deed is in his name, but he refinanced the house during the course of our marriage a couple of years ago. I did not contribute to the mortgage because I only worked part time. What am I entitled to? Brette's Answer: Go see an attorney. The appreciation in value during the marriage is marital property regardless of whether you worked or not. Does he get anything if I owned the house prior to our marriage? Marta's Question: I am planning to get a divorce with my husband. From my previous married I had a condo in which my ex and I are still owners. He is still living there because it's hard to sell the house those days. Do I have to split the equity in the condo with my present husband or not? Brette's Answer: Property owned prior to marriage is separate property and not divided in the divorce, unless your spouse contributed to the upkeep, improvement, or mortgage/tax payment of that property. Do we each get to keep the property we had before we got married? Esmeralda's Question: All the property we have was bought prior to our marriage. In the divorce, do I stay with the property that is in my name and he stays with the property that is in his name? Brette's Answer: Property bought before marriage is usually separate property and not divided in the divorce. There are some exceptions, such as if your spouse helped increase the value of property you owned (such as by paying the mortgage or making repairs on a home you own). » Return to top Will I get anything if we bought the home before we got married? Britnee's Question: I have been with my spouse for over 10 years, but just recently got married to him four years ago. I would like to know if I am entitled to any share of the home we bought and have been living in for over 10 years (even though we were not legally married when the home was purchased). I am not on the home deed but my spouse is the primary signer of the home and his mother is the co-signer. Will I be entitled to any share? Brette's Answer: You need to see an attorney. If you bought the home before marriage but in his name only, it is slightly complicated. You are definitely entitled to something, but you really need to talk to someone who can get the details and talk to you about what your state laws say. Does he have a right to enter if I was awarded the house? Connie's Question: I was awarded the house in our divorce agreement, with the contingency that it be sold after the kids have grown. His name is still on the deed, and he has been entering my house when no one is home, without my knowledge or permission. Does he have the right to enter because his name is on the deed? Brette's Answer: Your agreement should have stated that you have exclusive occupancy of the home, which means he can't come in. If it does not say this, you need to contact your attorney and get it changed. Once you are granted occupancy of the home, you can change the locks and he cannot enter without your approval. » Return to top He won't leave even though he signed an agreement to move. Adelia's Question: My Ex-to-be signed a stipulation agreement that states that he must move out 5 days after receipt of me buying him out of the home. Now he tells me that he plans on staying longer. Can I have him legally removed based on that agreement? Brette's Answer: If the stipulation has been submitted to and accepted by the court, then it's a court order and must be complied with. You need to go back on a violation. What does it mean if he's asking to buy me out? Janie's Question: We have two rental properties. He said I can have one. Now he's asking to buy me out. What does that mean? Brette's Answer: It means you need to get an attorney who can advise you as to what your rights are and what a court would likely order in your situation. You should consider going to mediation where you can work out a settlement once you have all the facts. If you are asking me what "buying out" means, it means that instead of you taking one property, he is proposing giving you the cash value of that property and keeping the property himself. Can I buy out his interest in the house before divorce? Tina's Question: The mortgage to our house is solely in my husband's name, though the deed is in both of our names. I have some money from the sale of rental property that I had before marriage. We have agreed that I can buy our marital property with that money as down payment. How would I do this prior to the divorce without my investment becoming marital property? Brette's Answer: You have an attorney or mediator draw up a formal stipulation or settlement that covers this issue. » Return to top What are my options if I can't afford to buy him out? Laura's Question: My husband wants a divorce and we own a home together. My 84 yr old mother lives with us and I am her primary caregiver. He wants to sell the house, but I can't move my mom at this time because she is too ill. So he wants me to buy out his half of the house. I don't have that kind of money. Any suggestions? Brette's Answer: The sale of the home could be postponed until a date in the future or until your mother could be moved. You could continue as joint owners. You could work something out with regard to the mortgage. You could pay it. He could be ordered to pay part or all of it depending on your financial situation. You should talk to a lawyer or mediator who can help you work through the possible solutions. He wants to buy out my interest, but I want the house sold Kristin's Question: My soon to be ex wants to buy me out of the house, because he "likes it". I think that we should sell and split the money, primarily because I feel it would be more detrimental for the children to visit their father in their "old" home. I believe they would have difficulty understanding why daddy gets to stay in our "home" and we can't. Any thoughts or advice? Brette's Answer: There's no absolute answer to this. I understand how you feel about this, but it could be argued that seeing their dad at the old family home could provide them with a sense of stability when everything else in their lives is changing. The problem is going to be that when a court decides what will happen with the house, it's unlikely that the issue of how the kids would react would be considered. I'm not saying it isn't possible, I'm just saying it's unlikely most judges would want to make your husband move because you think it's not good for the kids. What you might consider doing is getting several appraisals of the home. Once your husband sees how much it's worth, and realizes what he would have to pay you to stay there, he might rethink his approach. You could also sweeten the pot by telling him you'll agree to longer visitation if he moves. You ought to consult with your attorney about this, and I also think this might be a good case for mediation. If you can't agree, you might want to consider seeing a child therapist who could help determine what would truly be in the best interests of the children - but you would need to prepared to hear an answer you might not like (that it might be ok for them to see their father at the old home). Good luck with this! » Return to top Can he refuse to buy me out and force a court house sale? Linda's Question: Can my husband refuse to buy me out of our marital home and force a court house sale only to buy it back at the sale for himself at a reduced rate? He knows I cannot afford to bid against him. Isn't this an illegal way for him to avoid paying me 1/2? There is nothing owed on the house. Thanks. Brette's Answer: Sounds like you need to get a lawyer and get an order in place regarding the home. How do I go about buying out his interest in the marital home? Sally's Question: I understand that the equity is divided, and my ex wants me to buy him out his share. How does that work? I guess what I'm wondering is where do I get the money to pay him off? If I owe him $20K, do I get a loan, and will I have to refinance? Brette's Answer: There are several ways this can work. The easiest, and less expensive way is to take a look at all your assets, including equity of the home. You might be able to trade other assets for his equity in the home. Say for example, there is $20k of equity and you together own $30k of other assets. To buy out his 10k of equity, you would trade 10k of your interest in the other assets. You you walk away with 20k in equity in the home and 5k in other assets. He walks away with 25k in other assets. The other option is to take out a home equity loan to pay him off, or to use your own separate assets to do so. » Return to top What if he claims that the house is worth more than I am offering? Brenda's Question: In our divorce, we agreed to sell the house and split the proceeds. After the divorce was finalized, my father passed on and left me enough to potentially buy my ex's share of the house. I have made a very reasonable offer, but he is claiming that the property is worth much more, and rallying the neighbors to make offers to him. What can I do now? Brette's Answer: You should consider getting a valuation of the property, or asking the court to order one. The court then accepts this figure and he has to sell it to you for half of that. Usually each side presents a valuation and the court will often land in the middle. Topic: Joint tenancy with right of survivorship Ruth's Question: I was divorced in 1985. We both still own the home as JTWRS (joint tenancy with right of survivorship). He is getting remarried in about 2 months. Is there anything I can do to get my half share of the home value? What do I need to do? Brette's Answer: It depends on what your divorce order says. If he is going to live in the home, he could refinance and pay you your portion. If you're going to live there, you could do the same. Talk to an attorney who can interpret your order for you. Would it be a good idea to gift the house to our son in the divorce? Norma's Question: We are getting a divorce after 25 years of marriage. Currently we have 2 properties and want to leave one to our son via a quit claim deed. Is this a good idea? Is it best to do it before the divorce or should we let the court do it and making our son the beneficiary? My son is a full time college student and we are looking for the best and most economical way for him to benefit and not suffer for our mistakes. Brette's Answer: You need to talk to an attorney. You run the risk of getting into gift tax issues if don't do this as a sale. Topic: Will I owe capital gains taxes if I'm awarded the house? Autumn's Question: My husband and I are divorcing, and the decree states that I will receive the condo we have been renting out and he will receive the home that we lived in. Are there any tax issues that I need to be aware of? I read something about property received in a divorce settlement having a capital gains tax associated with it. Can you help? Brette's Answer: There are no taxes assessed on transfers made as part of a divorce. You only have to pay capital gains taxes if you sell the property and have a taxable gain. Topic: His ex placed a lien on the house I was awarded Cady's Question: I was awarded the house in the divorce settlement. I then discovered that his ex wife had filed a child support lien on property. When we went to court, the judge said that the lien held, so if I sell the house I have to pay the child support lien. If I do this, I can't afford to pay closing, realtors fees, or repairs, because I live on Disability. Any advise? Brette's Answer: You need to talk to an attorney. Depending on the order in which things happened, you could sue your ex for the value of the lien on the house, since you were awarded the house. Good luck. » Return to top Will I have to pay the tax lien if I'm awarded the house? Simone's Question: My husband just received a notice of a tax lien on our house. We agreed that he would give me the house in the divorce. If I get financing for the house, will I have to pay his IRS lien as well? Brette's Answer: A tax lien must be paid. No way around it. Good luck. What if he didn't disclose the equity loan on the house I received? Teresa's Question: I got the home in the divorce. I found out after I was awarded the home that my husband has a Home equity line of credit on the house and has been paying on it now for 5 years. The divorce was final 5 years ago and the credit line was not mention on the divorce decree. What should I do? Brette's Answer: You need to get the decree modified. Talk to your attorney. Is he responsible to help cover the increasing taxes and insurance? Joyce's Question: Both of our names are still on the deed, but I remained in the house after our divorce. There is no mortgage, but taxes and home insurance have gone up over the years. Can I get him to pay some extra now to cover the increase in the costs? Also if I decided to sell the house, will he be responsible to pay for part of the new mortgage since my daughter will still be living at home? Brette's
Answer: No, you can't get any more money for the increase in the cost of living. If you want to sell the home, the equity in it would be divided according to your judgment. It's unlikely you would be entitled to payments for another mortgage, unless your judgment orders him to do so. See an attorney. Copyright WomansDivorce.com. All rights reserved. Related Articles:
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