He lied about money
For years now, he has lied about money and our finances. I have been married to him for nearly 25 years and have known for a long time that it wouldn’t last because he constantly lied about everything, especially the money. He hid bills, pretended he paid bills when he didn't, ran up huge credit card debt without my knowledge, and took no responsibility for his actions.
In the beginning, he would be remorseful for the financial train wreck he caused, but for the last few years he just becomes indignant. I stayed home with our 3 kids for years and now I am working full time, but my earning potential is pathetic even though I have a college degree. I’ve finally had enough and will be filing for divorce. I am totally overwhelmed with emotions, problems with my oldest daughter who is 20 and sides with her dad, and freaking out about how to fill out all the paperwork needed to file. He is taking constant loans out of the joint checking with no explanation as to where the money is going and has opened another account in his own name.
I have had my own checking for about 6 months and he was angry I was depositing my check directly into that account because he couldn’t access it. I did this to protect what little money I was making, but am still helping to pay bills.
I am beginning to think he has either a gambling addiction or a sexual addiction and is using the money for some sinister activity. I have become totally distrustful of him over the years and regret I stayed, but came from an abusive family and I guess I felt I didn't deserve better. I have lost everything, my husband, my daughter, and now my sister-in-law who was my best friend and is being fed his lies about what a psycho I am.
I am trudging through mud and trying to deal with all this turmoil and grieving all these losses. It’s hard to keep going on.