Women's Divorce Blog

It's not what happens in life, it's how you handle it

Wed, 18 Nov 2009 18:53:57 GMT

Tip 33 from 95 Transformational Tips For Letting Go and Moving On After Your Divorce

Life is always going to throw us curveballs, and divorce is one of the biggest curveballs we will ever face, second only to the death of a loved one in terms of loss. If we accept that life will always present us with fresh challenges, we won't be as upset when they appear. Recognizing the fact that life is continually handing us obstacles to overcome, we can then be more accepting and less likely to be angry or resentful. It's not what life throws our way that determines the quality of our lives, but rather how we choose to handle what life throws our way.

Parenting Plan Modifications

Wed, 18 Nov 2009 18:49:06 GMT

Changing circumstances often warrant parenting plan modifications, such as changes in child visitation schedules and parental access.

Facing Your Fears After Divorce

Wed, 18 Nov 2009 18:47:37 GMT

An important part of the divorce recovery process is facing your fears and moving beyond them so that you can begin designing the life that you want to lead.

Tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth

Wed, 18 Nov 2009 00:06:42 GMT

Tip #28 from 95 Transformational Tips For Letting Go and Moving On After Your Divorce

If I had to choose the most powerful tool for personal transformation and ultimate happiness, it would have to be honoring the truth. Setting aside ego and fear and facing the truth allows you to make powerful and lasting changes and choices in life. You cannot fool yourself for that long, and if you do you'll pay a big price. Denial leaves you totally powerless to change. Drop your interpretations, your story, and your drama, and look the truth in the eye.

Imagine if you went to a doctor looking for a cure to an illness but you did not tell her all your symptoms. How could she make a diagnosis and help you?

The truth will set you free.

Legal Separation

Tue, 17 Nov 2009 21:44:07 GMT

Legal separation is the solution when youre neither married nor divorced.

Understand the total futility of worrying about what you cannot control or predict.

Sat, 14 Nov 2009 18:29:06 GMT

Tip 25 from 95 Transformational Tips For Letting Go and Moving On After Your Divorce

Think about it: We only worry about what might happen, aka the future, whether it's a minute away or a year away. Given the fact that we have no control over the future and cannot even begin to predict what tomorrow holds, exactly what do we accomplish through worry? We cause ourselves sleepless nights, fear, heartache, and anxiety,not to mention the waste of precious time and energy. If you have to worry, try worrying about something you can do something about, and then do it. Also try this motto: I'll cross that bridge when I get to it.

Child Custody Issues

Sat, 14 Nov 2009 18:25:04 GMT

During a divorce, child custody issues are often where the negotiations break down. What are your options?

Are you really making choices?

Sat, 14 Nov 2009 18:19:12 GMT

Tip #24 from 95 Transformational Tips For Letting Go and Moving On After Your Divorce

Do you choose of your own free will, or are your choices simply knee-jerk reactions? As human beings we are gifted with free will, which means that we get to consciously choose what is in our best interest. Choice involves thought and consideration. What we choose will impact our lives. Something as simple as what we eat for breakfast, or as complex as the legal agreement for our divorce, all demand our free will, not our emotional reactions. Stop and think carefully before you choose. Do not let your emotions dictate your future.

Parental Alienation Awareness

Fri, 13 Nov 2009 22:39:52 GMT

Parental alienation awareness is critical when there is a shift in your relationship with your child, especially during or after a bitter custody battle. Here are some signs and behaviors to look for.

Parenting Plan Template

Fri, 13 Nov 2009 19:17:34 GMT

A parenting plan template to help you make decisions about how you will parent your children now that you are divorcing.

Accepting Divorce And Moving On

Fri, 13 Nov 2009 18:51:47 GMT

Accepting divorce can be hard, especially if you didn't want it, but acceptance is a critical component to your divorce recovery.

Quotes On Divorce

Thu, 12 Nov 2009 18:59:09 GMT

The following quotes on divorce will put a smile on your face, give you perspective, and encourage you during this difficult time.

Letting Go After Divorce

Wed, 11 Nov 2009 19:35:47 GMT

The reward for letting go after divorce is gaining freedom from your past and moving on to a destiny that is shaped by your choices and desires.

Don't add meaning where there is none.

Wed, 11 Nov 2009 19:32:01 GMT

Tip #22 from 95 Transformational Tips For Letting Go and Moving On After Your Divorce

If you can master this, you are on your way to a new life. What we do to ourselves! We add meaning where there is none, and then we feel miserable. Classic example: Your ex had an affair. You decide that this affair means you are undesirable, unlovable, and a failure-Get it?

Who knows the real reason they cheated. Maybe it's just in their DNA or some unresolved issue from the past, but it doesn't have to mean something negative about you. You have to recognize that it is you and only you who have chosen the meaning attached to the affair. You create the misery for yourself.

The fact is that person had an affair, and the meaning you create is that you are unlovable. That meaning is not factual. Start separating the facts from the meanings. The "meanings" are making you feel terrible, maybe more so than the affair itself!

Reclaim Your Space After Divorce

Wed, 11 Nov 2009 19:26:42 GMT

One of the best things to do after divorce is to reclaim your space so it reflects your new life and honors what is important to you. Here are some tips to help you get started in the bedroom.

Divorce And Life Insurance

Wed, 11 Nov 2009 17:11:48 GMT

These divorce and life insurance tips can help you understand how everything is handled to guarantee that support payments are made in the event that the support spouse dies.

Learn to accept reality as it is and not as you think it should be.

Tue, 10 Nov 2009 20:17:45 GMT

Tip #12 from 95 Transformational Tips For Letting Go and Moving On After Your Divorce

Acceptance is the most important step in divorce recovery. It is imperative that you consciously acknowledge reality for what it is and exactly as it exists. Once you have done that, you need to move into the full acceptance of what is versus what you think should be.

Should-be and could-be and I-want-it-to-be are fantasyland; a totally subjective viewpoint that has nothing to do with what your life actually is today. Should-be is also a clear sign that you have not yet accepted your divorce and are resisting reality. It's akin to not wanting to believe that your child is sick. If you resist the fact of the illness, then you cannot do anything to help your child. You wouldn't do that to your child, so why do it to yourself?

Should-be keeps you stuck in the pain and in the past. When you accept life for what it is, you can then move forward to make powerful choices and decisions on how you plan to live it in the future.

Announcements And Upcoming Events For Women Facing Divorce

Tue, 10 Nov 2009 20:09:58 GMT

Announcements and upcoming events for women facing divorce, as well as those recovering from their divorce. Current events include the Divorce Workshop, and Sandra's fireside chat for recently separated or divorced women ready to re-build their lives.

Uncovering The Positive Side Of Divorce

Tue, 10 Nov 2009 19:21:10 GMT

Finding the positive side of divorce can allow you grow into a great new you as you rebuild your life. Are you ready for a new perspective on divorce?

Free Budget Worksheets

Tue, 10 Nov 2009 18:13:00 GMT

These printable free budget worksheets can help you determine where you stand and help you.

Budgeting Income and Expenses During Divorce

Tue, 10 Nov 2009 18:07:14 GMT

Budgeting income and expenses during divorce is important when determining the standard of living established during the marriage. Use these tips and budget planning help to tackle the job.

Your Ex After Divorce How To Establish Boundaries

Mon, 09 Nov 2009 19:34:27 GMT

Cutting the emotional ties to your ex after divorce is an important step in starting over, because it allows you to move beyond being an ex-wife.

Divorce Grounds

Mon, 09 Nov 2009 19:11:04 GMT

What you claim as the divorce grounds may affect the settlement agreement and alimony. Find out more about the grounds for divorce.

Temporary Child Custody

Mon, 09 Nov 2009 19:05:53 GMT

Getting an order for temporary child custody before your divorce is finalized can help maintain order if things get out of hand.

Strategies To Save Money

Fri, 06 Nov 2009 18:49:42 GMT

The following strategies to save money will help you as you begin to rebuild your life, with tips on budgeting, saving, and investing.

Shelley Stile - Divorce Recovery Expert

Fri, 06 Nov 2009 18:46:18 GMT

Shelley Stile is a Divorce Recovery Life Coach who works with women as they transition through their divorce to move forward in creating a new and better life.

Anger Management Following Divorce

Thu, 05 Nov 2009 21:52:31 GMT

Successfully releasing your anger will help you begin healing after your divorce.

Understanding Legal Separation

Thu, 05 Nov 2009 20:54:03 GMT

Getting a legal separation can help you take steps to protect yourself while you are separated and before you divorce.

Step Parent Adoption

Wed, 04 Nov 2009 16:55:45 GMT

After remarriage, step parent adoption may be a consideration, especially if the other parent isn't part of your children's lives. Here are some things to think about.

How To File For A Legal Separation

Wed, 04 Nov 2009 16:54:20 GMT

Learn how to file for a legal separation of marriage, as well as how to get separation agreements for your state.

Inconsistent Visitation

Wed, 04 Nov 2009 16:52:53 GMT

Inconsistent visitation can be frustrating for the custodial parent, but even worse is the disappointment that the children feel.

Divorce Inheritance Issues

Mon, 02 Nov 2009 23:08:02 GMT

When you are going through a divorce, inheritance issues sometimes come up. Is your inheritance, or property that was bought with it, considered separate property or a martial asset? Read more to find

Co-parenting and Child Health Issues

Fri, 30 Oct 2009 19:41:02 GMT

If your child has medical issues or dietary restrictions, proper care while they are with the other parent is a big concern. These tips on handling child health issues after divorce can make it easier

Green Parenting After Divorce

Fri, 30 Oct 2009 19:37:56 GMT

While the topic of green parenting seems weird when discussing custody and visitation, it's worth thinking about. With kids splitting their time between two house, you can reduce the waste.

The Marital Home and Divorce

Fri, 30 Oct 2009 17:10:11 GMT

The marital home and divorce; understanding the issues concerning marital property, equity, and mortgages.

Filing Divorce Papers

Fri, 30 Oct 2009 17:04:00 GMT

Filing divorce papers starts the process of getting a divorce. Learn what is required at this stage.

Rebuilding Your Confidence After Divorce

Thu, 29 Oct 2009 16:51:39 GMT

Taking the steps to rebuild your confidence after divorce is part of the natural healing process that is necessary as you enter this new stage in your life.

Afford A Divorce

Wed, 28 Oct 2009 20:38:53 GMT

Not being able to afford a divorce is a common concern for many women, but there are ways to get the process started without a lot of money.

Divorce Property Issues

Tue, 27 Oct 2009 18:45:40 GMT

Divorce property issues are determined by whether your live in a community property or equitable distribution state, and your individual property settlement agreement.

Divorcing An Abusive Husband

Mon, 26 Oct 2009 19:45:23 GMT

Planning is critical before filing for a divorce from an abusive husband. Divorce is ugly anyway, but it can turn brutal when leaving a controlling spouse. Find out how to protect yourself.

Warning Signs Of An Abuser

Mon, 26 Oct 2009 19:42:32 GMT

Sometimes it is hard to see the warning signs of an abuser. What may seem like a hot-temper may actually be something that runs much deeper.

Rhode Island Divorce Law, Forms, and Resources

Mon, 26 Oct 2009 16:44:19 GMT

Get information on Rhode Island divorce by reading the divorce law summary, choosing a divorce lawyer, finding RI divorce forms, and using the child support guidelines and calculator.

Divorce And Auto Loan Responsibility

Fri, 23 Oct 2009 16:12:49 GMT

Tips on divorce and auto loan responsibility from the divorce financial advisor to help you understand your options.

How Is Custody Determined

Fri, 23 Oct 2009 16:09:20 GMT

How is custody determined in a divorce case? The following information can help you understand what a judge takes into consideration when determining custody.

Child Visitation Rights

Fri, 23 Oct 2009 00:09:28 GMT

The topic of child visitation rights is often a sore spot for parents that have divorced. The following tips can help you deal with the situation.

Sole Custody Rights

Fri, 23 Oct 2009 00:03:18 GMT

Understanding sole custody rights is important, especially if you are considering going to court concerning custody of your children.

Legal Separation Advice

Tue, 20 Oct 2009 19:11:02 GMT

The following separation advice can help you understand what your rights are during a legal separation.

How To Serve Divorce Papers

Mon, 19 Oct 2009 18:06:34 GMT

If you are wondering how to serve divorce papers, here are the different methods that you can use and the proof of service that each requires.

Restraining Orders

Mon, 19 Oct 2009 18:00:49 GMT

Restraining orders can help offer some protection against abuse by establishing limits on the abuser. Learn more about orders of protection and your rights.

Signing Divorce Papers

Fri, 16 Oct 2009 19:30:58 GMT

Signing divorce papers is not always as simple as it seems. What can you do if your spouse refuses to sign or if you don't agree with the papers? Find out the answers.